Transitioning into a new chapter of life is like standing on the edge of a cliff—exciting yet terrifying. As I prepare to close the door on a life I've loved and step into a future full of possibilities, I find myself caught between fear and excitement. The sale of my retreat center in New Hampshire is just around the corner, and while I'm grateful for the time and financial freedom it promises, the uncertainty of what comes next is daunting.
At 65, after a busy, fun and fulfilling career, I find myself leaning into the legacy phase of my life. It's a place I've never been before, complete with thoughts I've never thought and feelings I've never felt. I am in a place where I feel fully integrated. I've dealt with life challenges, work challenges, money challenges, relationship challenges and have learned so much from each. I've accumulated life skills, work skills, money management skills, relationship skills that I use every day. I chose to dive into personal growth and learned to release certain patterns of behavior that no longer serve me. I've learned how to fully feel my emotions and not push them down or away. For the first time in my life, I feel fully integrated as a person. I know who I am, what I like, what I don't like, what I need, what I want, what I don't need, what I won't tolerate. I've learned patience, acceptance, compassion and how to set boundaries. I've learned how to dream. I've learned how to manifest what I want in life. And yet, fear still creeps in as I begin to fully embrace this legacy phase of my life.
Here are five tips I’m using to shift from fear to excitement as I navigate this unknown territory:
1. Acknowledge Your Fear—Then Reframe It
Fear often signals that something important is happening. Instead of letting it paralyze you, try reframing it as a sign that you're on the brink of something big. When I feel that knot of anxiety, I remind myself that it’s just my brain's way of preparing for change. Fear isn’t an enemy; it’s an ally nudging you to stay alert and engaged. Ask yourself: What’s the worst that could happen? Then flip it—what’s the best that could happen? The unknown holds as much promise as it does uncertainty.
2. Anchor Yourself in the Present
While it’s natural to project into the future, dwelling on what might go wrong can intensify fear. Instead, focus on the present moment. I’ve found solace in small routines—setting up a cozy workspace overlooking my dad's parklike backyard, taking walks, and enjoying lunches with friends. These daily anchors ground me in the now, making the future feel less overwhelming. Remember, the only moment you have control over is this one.
3. Visualize Your Ideal Future
Use your imagination not to anticipate fears, but to visualize the life you want. I often picture myself traveling, writing, and exploring new opportunities with the freedom I’ve worked so hard to achieve. Visualizing positive outcomes shifts your mindset from what you might lose to what you stand to gain. It transforms fear into excitement, turning the unknown into a canvas for your dreams.
4. Embrace the Adventure Mindset
Every new phase in life is an adventure, with its own set of challenges and rewards. Rather than fearing the discomfort of stepping out of your comfort zone, embrace it as a sign that you're growing. I remind myself that the most fulfilling experiences in my life came from taking risks and embracing change. Adventure isn’t about the absence of fear—it’s about stepping into the unknown with curiosity and courage.
5. Trust Your Journey
Finally, trust that everything you’ve done up to this point has prepared you for what’s next. The sale of my property is a significant milestone, but it’s just one step in a longer journey. Trust that the same intuition and resilience that guided you in the past will continue to lead you forward. Believe that every challenge is an opportunity to grow, and that your journey, with all its twists and turns, is unfolding exactly as it should.
Transition is just the beginning of a new adventure; one that promises growth, discovery, and freedom. It challenges us to acknowledge the fear, get out of our head, connect with our heart and be present in each moment. I once heard that fear is simply excitement without the breath. Breathing is a simple, yet powerful way to to become present in the moment, however it's only the beginning of the journey from the head to the heart. If you could use some support through a life transition, click here to check out our FREE mini course The Journey from Head to Heart.
At 65, after a busy, fun and fulfilling career, I find myself leaning into the legacy phase of my life. It's a place I've never been before, complete with thoughts I've never thought and feelings I've never felt. I am in a place where I feel fully integrated. I've dealt with life challenges, work challenges, money challenges, relationship challenges and have learned so much from each. I've accumulated life skills, work skills, money management skills, relationship skills that I use every day. I chose to dive into personal growth and learned to release certain patterns of behavior that no longer serve me. I've learned how to fully feel my emotions and not push them down or away. For the first time in my life, I feel fully integrated as a person. I know who I am, what I like, what I don't like, what I need, what I want, what I don't need, what I won't tolerate. I've learned patience, acceptance, compassion and how to set boundaries. I've learned how to dream. I've learned how to manifest what I want in life. And yet, fear still creeps in as I begin to fully embrace this legacy phase of my life.
Here are five tips I’m using to shift from fear to excitement as I navigate this unknown territory:
1. Acknowledge Your Fear—Then Reframe It
Fear often signals that something important is happening. Instead of letting it paralyze you, try reframing it as a sign that you're on the brink of something big. When I feel that knot of anxiety, I remind myself that it’s just my brain's way of preparing for change. Fear isn’t an enemy; it’s an ally nudging you to stay alert and engaged. Ask yourself: What’s the worst that could happen? Then flip it—what’s the best that could happen? The unknown holds as much promise as it does uncertainty.
2. Anchor Yourself in the Present
While it’s natural to project into the future, dwelling on what might go wrong can intensify fear. Instead, focus on the present moment. I’ve found solace in small routines—setting up a cozy workspace overlooking my dad's parklike backyard, taking walks, and enjoying lunches with friends. These daily anchors ground me in the now, making the future feel less overwhelming. Remember, the only moment you have control over is this one.
3. Visualize Your Ideal Future
Use your imagination not to anticipate fears, but to visualize the life you want. I often picture myself traveling, writing, and exploring new opportunities with the freedom I’ve worked so hard to achieve. Visualizing positive outcomes shifts your mindset from what you might lose to what you stand to gain. It transforms fear into excitement, turning the unknown into a canvas for your dreams.
4. Embrace the Adventure Mindset
Every new phase in life is an adventure, with its own set of challenges and rewards. Rather than fearing the discomfort of stepping out of your comfort zone, embrace it as a sign that you're growing. I remind myself that the most fulfilling experiences in my life came from taking risks and embracing change. Adventure isn’t about the absence of fear—it’s about stepping into the unknown with curiosity and courage.
5. Trust Your Journey
Finally, trust that everything you’ve done up to this point has prepared you for what’s next. The sale of my property is a significant milestone, but it’s just one step in a longer journey. Trust that the same intuition and resilience that guided you in the past will continue to lead you forward. Believe that every challenge is an opportunity to grow, and that your journey, with all its twists and turns, is unfolding exactly as it should.
Transition is just the beginning of a new adventure; one that promises growth, discovery, and freedom. It challenges us to acknowledge the fear, get out of our head, connect with our heart and be present in each moment. I once heard that fear is simply excitement without the breath. Breathing is a simple, yet powerful way to to become present in the moment, however it's only the beginning of the journey from the head to the heart. If you could use some support through a life transition, click here to check out our FREE mini course The Journey from Head to Heart.