Yesterday I was on a live Zoom call with Jack Canfield, the Chicken Soup for the Soul guy, exploring a new process I’m learning about using essential oils to enhance emotional clearing and healing. For those of you who have never worked with Jack, trust me ... he is a master facilitator and any time spent with him is jam packed with value. I've been studying with Jack for 10 years and I am always amazed at how time spent with him clears blocks, reframes my beliefs about myself and propels me forward towards my next right steps.
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Jack led me and 500 other people through a simple process that took about 30 minutes with the goal of releasing some limiting beliefs or emotional blocks.​

I didn’t have anything in particular I wanted to work on, so I was open to whatever showed up. How funny that the minute I closed my eyes, my subconscious mind brought forth an image that was about to help me gain some understanding around a relationship theme I’ve been struggling with lately.

So, I put some Valor essential oil blend in my palms for courage and dove in!

With my eyes closed I did a body scan as Jack guided me through the process. I could feel a sharp pain in my right chest. It felt like a dagger. It was pointing left and went straight into the side of my heart.

Jack invited me to allow an image to pop into my head. Then he had me fill in the details. I was in the 8th grade at a dance. My Mom set me up to go to the dance with her friend's son, who lived in a different town and went to a different school than I did. I work with teens and was immediately immersed into the dance experience. Wow. I remembered the dress, the corsage, the chaos happening all around me. Kids were running around everywhere. And I was standing in the corner, all alone. I didn’t know anyone there. My date, in typical 8th grade fashion, was running wild with his friends and had no idea how to treat me or take care of me … his date. And I didn't even think to tell him what I needed. I just stood there in the corner waiting for it to be over and to get back to familiar territory.

The truth is, that is typical 8th grade dating behavior … but what I suddenly realized was that this scene might have actually set me up for accepting the same kind of behavior from my future dates and ultimately relationship partners. Perhaps it even had something to do with me being so independent in relationships and not ever letting a man take care of me. So interesting!

Jack led me through a dialogue with my 8th grade self and my date about how I felt about the way he was treating me and how it might have set me up for future relationships. Jack invited me to turn my inner critic into my inner coach and I literally had a conversation with my present self about my relationship history and the trends I've experienced and the types of the partners I have, up until now, attracted. I tend to take care of them and expect very little in return. That is not exactly a set up for the partnership I truly desire. I am single. I take good care of myself and I have never really let any man take care of me. It's been an issue all the way through my life, in both intimate relationships as well as friendships, band I sometimes find myself out of balance with my fiercely independent nature. Sometimes doing too much. Sometimes doing very little. Always trying to find balance in a not so healthy way. So interesting.

The best part was when Jack invited my older, wiser, 85 year old self to talk with my 8th grade self and my present day self about the beliefs I had carried forward. There, in just 30 minutes, with a drop of Valor oil, a drop of Highest Potential blend and a bit of visualization, I completely reframed an old subconscious belief that seems to have started in the 8th grade and continued through my adult life up until now, into a whole new approach to relationships.

Wow! I never, ever would have connected Eddy, my one time 8th grade date, with my relationships. And who knows if he actually did have that much impact. But my subconscious mind used that image, when I allowed it to by doing Jack’s process, to gain powerful insight and cause a profound shift in me and the way I show up in relationships and even where I struggle in some of my friendships.

I released that feeling last night, feel a whole lot lighter and am curious to see how this shift plays out in my present life.

Jack led me through this experience in just 30 minutes. Imagine what can happen in 30 days!

If you are struggling, as many of us are with all that is happening in the world, why not join us for the 30 Emotional Reset Experience? Jack Canfield and top industry experts will be working with you using a combination of essential oils and proven strategies Jack uses at all of his training events.

The Experience is taking place over the month of July. The timing is perfect with all that is going on in the world right now and the emotional roller coaster many of us have been on over the past few months. There is no cost to you for the Emotional Reset Experience. The essential oil supplies (Basic Starter Kit and the Feelings Kit) can be ordered here. It will be the best $225 investment you ever made in yourself. 

Once you order your supplies,  I will follow up with you to get you registered for the 30 Day Experience.

Feel free to email me at trisharx@aol.com if you have any questions.

“Why do we have to listen to our hearts?" the boy asked.
"Because, wherever your heart is, that is where you will find your treasure.” ― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

​It's been a long time since I last posted here. I could make excuses or apologize for the silence. But that's not why I'm here. I'm here because I am taking inspired action. I feel compelled to reach out and connect. Heart to heart.

This quarantine thing has been interesting, to say the least. For many of us it's been a time of quiet, solitude, isolation, pause and reflection. For others it's been a myriad of activity and striving to balance the need to work at home, parenting, figure out in-home child care and home schooling and do our best to steal that much needed time to rest, recover and reset. 

For all of us it's been a time for grieving. We many not realize it, but we are all grieving at some level. Perhaps we've lost loved ones. Perhaps we've lost our jobs, our income, some clients. Many of us are missing the simple things we took for granted, like face to face-eye to eye contact, hugs, our favorite coffee spot, retail therapy, date night with our significant other at our favorite restaurant relaxing over a glass of wine or a family wedding, birthday or graduation celebration. or a simply taking a few minutes to relax chat with a neighbor we run into at the grocery store.

COVID-19 has impacted each and every one of us on the planet. Our "normal" has been disrupted. We've had time to pause and reflect and notice that there are parts of our new normal that we like and there are parts of our old normal we miss. And as we begin to see restrictions being loosened, it's time to focus on what we want to create moving forward.

Today, as I socially distance in NH, I woke up to my cat all snuggled in next to me. I have a list a mile long of things I "need to do". But there is nothing to rush to as my schedule is much more forgiving than it was in my pre-COVID-19 normal. So I turned off my head that keeps reminding me of my to do list and I got up, made a cup of coffee and crawled back into bed and take my first sip as I bury my fingers into my cat's fur and feel her beginning to purr, focus on gratitude and settle in for a bit of meditation.

Take a minute to reflect on what you do to connect with your heart? What have you noticed during our time in quarantine? What makes your heart beat happy? What are you grateful for? What would you like to focus on moving forward? What will you continue doing once we can get back out into the world that can get a bit noisy?

That's a new mid-COVID-19 habit I've developed that I intend to maintain once the restrictions are lifted and I am free to live my new post-COVID-19 life. A practice that is worth setting the alarm for, if it ever comes to that.

During meditation, my heart told me to get back to writing, so here I am. This blog post will clear the way for the next one, with each one sharing tips, tools and resources I feel will be helpful in making the transition and intentionally creating our new normal. Also in meditation I am reminded of that grief book that I started writing three years ago that I never completed because I didn't have the final chapter. The truth is, I've lived the final chapter through this COVID-19 experience and it's time to get my story and the life lessons and inspiration that are woven through it out so others can benefit from my experience.

What would your life be like if you followed your heart ... even if your head tried to get in the way? Has there ever been a time when your head won over your heart? A time when you wished you hadn't listened to the head voices and followed your heart instead? Was there ever a time when you wished you knew how to turn down the head voices and get directly in touch with the wisdom of your heart?

Stay tuned ...

“Why do we have to listen to our hearts?" the boy asked.
"Because, wherever your heart is, that is where you will find your treasure.” 
― Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist​

PS If you'd like a simple, yet powerful breathing tool to get you started or enhance your meditation practice, you can download it here:

I am on a plane heading back from Scottsdale, Arizona after spending a week in the training room with Jack Canfield at his live Breakthrough to Success.

I attended my first BTS in August, 2010. That was the summer of profound transition for me. I was working with teens in a community outreach education program teaching puberty and sexuality education to elementary, middle and high school students. Although I loved my work, I simply wasn't making enough money to get by. I heard about BTS and decided it would be a great way for me to transition out of the work I was doing with teens and into work that was a bit more lucrative.

On the first day of the training, I felt inspired. At the end of the first day, I went back to my hotel room, took out my laptop and began to revise my curriculum to incorporate Jack's powerful principles into the work I was already doing with young people. By the last day of the training, I had a plan for how I could expand my time in the schools along with how I would get the funding to do that. The Success Principles were an amazing body of work and I simply knew that it needed to get to young people.

Take 100% Responsibility.
Decide What You Want
Be Clear Why You're Here
See What Want, Get What You See
Ask, Ask, Ask

The list of principles goes on and on. They are powerful. Jack is a master teacher and trainer of not only the Success Principles but also of the Law of Attraction. I listened. I learned. I practiced the principles. And I manifested myself a bit of magic right off the bat by practicing the principles.

On the last day of the training, I decided I wanted to enroll in his year long Success Principles Train the Trainer program. I didn't have the money to do so, but I set the intention that I would somehow manifest it. It took me a year. I visualized myself sitting in the training room with Jack and a small group of TTT students learning how to teach the work to others. I dreamed about bringing the Success Principles to middle, high school and college students. And I wrote about my dream and posted it all over social media. Jack teaches that if we share our dreams, people will come forth and help us. 

And that's exactly what happened. In early 2010, I was contacted by a person I met at BTS in 2010. We became Facebook friends and apparently she followed me on social media and was intrigued by my vision. In early 2012, I saw her at a Canfield training event and we connected at a deeper level. She asked me a myriad of questions about my background, my life and my passion for bringing the success principles to young people and how I planned to do that.

Long story short, in the summer of 2012, Nancy asked me to spend a long weekend with her. She invited me to take a road trip with her to Acadia National Park. Acadia is one of my favorite places on the planet and Nancy had never been. She told me that the trip was on her Dad. Her Dad has passed away and left her with some money and she wanted to organize the trip and pick up the tab. How could I say no?

I picked her up at the Portland Jetport and we made our way up the coast of Maine and onto Mount Desert Island. We stayed in wonderful bed and breakfasts, enjoyed amazing scenic views, daily ice cream indulgence and the all important quest for the best lobster roll Downeast. We enjoyed long chats as we walked and drove along the ocean and up to the top of Cadillac Mountain. 

On our last morning, over breakfast in the Lord Camden Inn, Nancy broke the news to me. She had inherited quite a sum of money from her Dad and she wanted to gift me the funds to cover tuition and travel expenses to Jack Canfield's Success Principles Train the Trainer Live program. I was in shock. I have always had a hard time allowing anyone to do anything for me, but I heard myself say, "thank you so much" and accept the gift.

I graduated TTT in 2012, joined Jack's Assisting Team right away and he has now hired me to lead his live event teams. I have learned so much and grown even more. Ready to lean into whatever comes my way that is in line with my vision to bring this work to young people.

Here's what's coming for this winter!
www.successonsnow.com

And there's more! Stay tuned for a HUGE announcement coming soon!

Feeling humble, grateful and so excited to serve such amazing work at such a powerful level!

​As we wrap up our time together, I’d love to hear about your number one takeaway from this experience. Have you had a chance to implement any of the ideas shared? Are there any you plan on
practicing in the future?

All feedback is welcome, so please don’t hesitate to reach out at trisharx@aol.com

Thank you for allowing me to share this journey with you.

The law of attraction is not a magic wand, and there’s real work involved in consciously and
habitually building positive thoughts to replace the negative ones.

Becoming a person who thinks positively of themselves isn’t something that happens overnight -
we all have years of experiences, stories, memories, fears, and worries that have created the landscape of our mind.

Taking time to dismantle unconscious thoughts is never easy. But it is possible.

The first thing that you can do to help rewire your brain is to insert empowering and positive
thoughts into your mind to reframe and replace the limiting ones. Oftentimes, the only thing holding us back from achieving what we want is the belief that we can’t do it. Take note of when you tell yourself “I can’t” and actively take a moment to think, “I can and I will.”

When you think something is “impossible” play devil’s advocate with yourself and challenge the
negative thought by asking why.

New science around neuroplasticity, social emotional learning, emotional intelligence and the human brain have shed some light on new techniques that can help clear old limiting beliefs and replace them with neural pathways that support success. Check out Dr. Deb Sandella's book Goodbye Hurt and Pain to read more about RIM, a simple, quick, powerful and effective tool to help clear painful experiences from memory and make room for peace and success! If you are interested in experiencing a RIM session with a certified facilitator, feel free to message me at trisharx@aol.com and I'll connect you.
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“If you can dream it, you can do it.” - Walt Disney

Part of manifesting positive energy is gaining the ability to push aside the negativity that others
might try to force on you, (knowingly or unknowingly).

The best way to control the type of energy that enters your life is by evaluating your social life.
When it comes to creating a positive social circle, you have the power to surround yourself with
people who bring positivity rather than negativity.

If you’re spending the majority of your time with people who cause you stress, fear, anger, or
unhappiness, it’s probably a good idea to start reaching out to new people who can help build
you up, encourage you and support and celebrate your successes.

Remember, you’re working to build trust and confidence in yourself, which is a lot easier to do
when you surround yourself with people who are on the same journey as you.

A simple activity to do is make a list of all the people you spend time with. This includes people you see in person, people you connect with online or with your phone. Once you've completed your list, put a + next to the people who support and encourage you and with whom you have positive interactions. Put a - next to the people who put you down, stress you out or discourage you. Put a 0 next to the rest, who are most likely neutral influences.

Take a look at the list and see how you can increase your time around the + list and decrease your time around the - list.

The first time I did this, my Mom was on my - list. That was a tough one for me to sort out. I love my Mom but my twice weekly conversations with her turned judgey after the first ten minutes on the phone. To address this, I simply reduced the time we talked to 10 minutes and said goodbye just as things were beginning to go down hill. It was perfect. This went on for a year before she asked me why we no longer had our long conversations. I had so much positive in our relationship I was able to be honest with her about why I had intentionally decreased our phone chat time. I was delighted (and shocked) that she asked for more time if she promised to keep her side of the conversation on the positive side. Several years later, my Mom got pretty sick and became terminal. I was so happy to be able to be by her side as she moved on to her next great adventure. And our time together was positive and supportive and loving and so beautiful that it made our challenges well worth it.
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“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambition. Small people always do that, but the
really great ones make you feel that you, too, can become great.” - Mark Twain

Early on in human evolution, when we were generally struggling to stay alive, we faced lots of
physical dangers. This created the basic stress responses in our brains that we still carry today,
hundreds of thousands of years later. Years of running from giant animals and the breathing
that accompanied that activity stuck with the human psyche as a pairing that equated ‘danger’
with quick, shallow breaths.

Today, when we’re anxious, we still take quick, shallow breaths from our upper chest - this type
of breathing is a natural response to stress and sends signals through our body that danger is
nearby, which stresses us out even more.

Even if there’s no real physical threat, we all still experience these breathing patterns because
the stress response hasn't evolved to differentiate between various stressors ... which is why it’s important to pay attention to how you’re breathing the next time you’re stressed, angry, or worried.

Look down, is your chest moving up and down with every breath or is your stomach?

With diaphragmatic breathing, you’ll breathe from your belly instead of the chest, which promotes
deeper breathing and provides a sense of calm and relaxation encouraging the body to unwind.
To practice this type of breathing, place your hand on your abdomen and push outward while inhaling. A few rounds of this and you’ll remind your body that you’re just fine, and not in any physical danger.

Another technique I learned from my friend Nancy Curtis, RN and meditation facilitator, either standing or sitting in a comfortable position, reach around your head and place your palms on top of your head. In this position, all your breaths will be belly breaths! This simple tip was a game changer for me!

​“When you own your breath, nobody can steal your peace.” - Unknown

Someone once told me, “a moment of gratitude changes your attitude,” turns out, it’s true!
In today’s world, where we’re reminded continuously of the accomplishments and highlights of
other people’s lives via social media, it’s easy to feel like you’re “not enough.”

When you feel negative, self-deprecating thoughts can crawl into your mind. Don't let them!
Instead, take a moment to think about and write down what you’re grateful for. It’s one of the
simplest ways to uplift your mood.

When we recognize our great fortune and appreciate all our blessings, it helps push back at the
negative thoughts and put things into a better, more positive perspective.

Having a hard time thinking of things? That’s okay, start by repeating anything that applies from
this list:

-The people who have taught you - be that parents, friends, teachers, animals, or whomever else
has inspired you to be a better person
-Your heart for pumping blood through your body every day and working hard to keep you
strong
-Your lungs for breathing in the air, extracting the oxygen, delivering it to your blood and exhaling the carbon dioxide back out into the air (which helps keep our plants healthy!)
- The sun, for bringing light and warmth into the world
- Your mind, for the ability to think, store memories, and create solutions
- Your mistakes, for helping you to improve, mature, and become a better person

The list goes on and on ...

Daily Gratitude Practice
Spend 5 minutes a day writing down 5 things you are grateful for.
Writing it down supercharges the practice.
Every single day for 5 weeks and you've got yourself a habit.
Keep doing it and you've got yourself a practice.

​“Be thankful for what you have, you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t
have, you will never have enough.” - Oprah Winfrey

Most of us don’t realize how many negative thoughts we have throughout the day. Whether it’s a negative or judgemental thought we send toward another or an attack that we launch on ourselves, negative thinking is something that can easily overpower our thoughts and our lives. To solve this problem, start paying attention to all the times that you are negative throughout the day.

• When you think about your future, are your thoughts optimistic or defeating?
• Are you telling yourself that it’s silly to follow a dream?
• Are you spending too much time worrying about all the things that could go wrong?
• When you look in the mirror, are your thoughts kind or unkind? (see below for a powerful daily Mirror Exercise to help shift this)

Instead of focusing on what’s wrong, focus on what’s right. When an obstacle arises, remind
yourself that you’re a good problem solver, and take some time to amp yourself up with all the
ways you can handle a tough situation to build up your confidence. 

My teacher and mentor, Jack Canfield,  teaches the concept of the inverse paranoid. He says, "I consider myself to be an inverse paranoid. I always operate as if everything is part of a universal plot to enhance my well-being."

When I first became aware of the power of my thinking, I read a book by Mendi Audlin. When I find myself worrying about a situation and how it's going to play out, I always go back to one of the key questions in her book. "What if it all goes right?" to help me get back to focusing on the positive.

Even when life is challenging, I've shifted to a place of looking for the positive in whatever experience I'm having. I ask myself two questions:

1) What if it's all perfect just the way it is?
2) What opportunity is there in this for me to learn and grow?

These questions got me through the death of my Mom, the death of my younger brother, my Dad's health challenges, the loss of two significant relationships in my life all within the course of one year. The experiences were rich and the growth for all involved was profound; and perfect for preparing me for my next steps in life.

It's certainly okay to fully feel our emotions. In fact, stuffing them down will only cause more problems in the long run. And it's also important to notice that we can experience immense joy and immense pain in and around the same time.

Like a magnet, your attitudes, thoughts, expectations, and beliefs attract everything and
everyone that enters into our lives. It is our thinking that is behind it all, thus reviewing a bit of information that psychologists have learned about our brains is time well spent.

Science suggests that 5-15% of brain activity is conscious and that 85-95% is subconscious. The conscious mind is responsible for logic and reasoning. It controls the actions you do intentionally. It is the first interface to the outer world. It takes in information at a very rapid rate and filters out the necessary ones transferring them to the subconscious mind for later use.  

But that is just the tip of the iceberg. It's what's happening beneath the waterline that is most important when we talk about manifesting, the power of our thoughts and creating the life we want.

The subconscious mind handles all of our basic physical functions (heart, lungs, digestion, etc.) to keep us alive. The subconscious also stores and organizes memories and emotions. It stays alert and does it's best to keep us safe. It has been suggested that the subconscious has recorded our experiences, memories and emotions of childhood up through the age of seven, similar to an operating system that runs our computers. This subconscious programming designed to protect us however it doesn't always serve us well in our intentional efforts to create the life we want.

If, in our conscious world, we come across anything that looks like a past experience, our subconscious programming, or operating system, kicks in automatically and guides the actions we take consciously with the primary goal of keeping us safe. Unfortunately, this may not always be ideal because it may be operating based on patterns and beliefs created in childhood. This may explain emotional triggers; experiences in present moment that get interpreted by the subconscious as threatening and thus elicit fear in our conscious experience and drive reactive responses in our adult life.

Have you ever, or have you ever witnessed anyone, react to a situation that was over the top with respect to the reality of the situation? If so, an old subconscious program is likely the cause.

The truth is, we are born with only two fears: 1) the fear of falling and 2) the fear of loud noises. Clearly, as adults, we can admit that we have developed additional fears over the course of our lifetime. Herein lies our power. If we choose to dig a little deeper and reprogram our subconscious brain, we can break old patterns and affect our outcomes at the conscious level. To manifest a life full of positive experiences, we must change your thoughts by allowing subconscious patterns to emerge and addressing them in the conscious. It's hard work, it takes practice, and it takes patience! But nothing worth doing in life is easy.

Meditation is one way to do this. There are many different ways to meditate, and it's up to each of us to find the method that works best for your needs. However, I’ll provide you the basics of how meditation works and affects our minds.

Meditation is about creating some space in your daily routine to get quiet and train your mind to listen to itself without judgment. By observing your feelings, you’ll start understanding your thought patterns better to gain a healthy sense of perspective, which in turn will make you more able to be present and fully engaged in day to day life.

This can be a simple as taking a few minutes to allow yourself to focus on your breath and simply observe your thoughts as they pass through ... similar to being on a boat and watching the water slip by without following it. Or being present in nature. Or it can be as complicated as listening to a guided meditation, creating an intentional meditation space and ritual in your home or going to a meditation retreat.

For me, I have found that sitting up in bed for an extra 15 minutes focused on my breathing and feeling the purring of my cat curled up next to me is a wonderful way to meditate.

The alternative to being mindful is allowing small annoyances to pile up and collect, going unaddressed, in the back of your mind. When negative thoughts pile up, it’s easy to get distracted throughout the day thinking about them, and it’s also easy to lash out at others because you’re distracted by the negative thought loop.

The other thing to consider is something Abraham Hicks teaches and that is the concept of momentum. Momentum is simply movement in a direction. Abraham says that momentum can be created in as little as seventeen seconds. For me, the momentum I choose to create during my morning ritual makes a huge difference in my day. If I wake up to a blaring alarm, my heart beats faster and I feel a sense of anxiety as I quickly reach out to hit the snooze button. For me, that creates momentum in the direction of stress.

If I choose to wake up to peaceful music, that also creates momentum in a much calmer and more peaceful direction.

If I then choose to jump out of bed, look at my massive to do list and get right on with my day, that creates momentum in the direction of stress. But if I choose to enjoy my first cup of coffee in my favorite sitting spot noticing the wonders of nature with my cat purring next to me, that creates even more momentum in the direction of calm and peace, which continues to reinforce the direction of my day. 

So, in your journey toward manifesting a better future, think of meditation as a tool that you can
use as a thought processor. Dr. Deborah Sandella, founder of the RIM Institute, has created some  wonderful and free guided meditations that I encourage you to check out here.

​“All that we are is a result of what we have thought” - Buddha

​If you're looking to shift your thoughts and explore limiting beliefs around money, consider playing the Prosperity Game! Learn more here: https://trishajacobson.synduit.com/CL0011

​Images affect our brain differently than words because visuals are more rudimentary than language, words and grammar. This is why the use of images or vision boards can be so helpful for manifesting positive thoughts and a more abundant future.

If you take time to compile a visual collection of things that you want to achieve and things that inspire you and make you happy, you’re actually creating a positive space that trains your brain to focus on goals and successes. On this vision board, you’ll want to include things that inspire and motivate you. Keep in mind that the purpose of your vision board is to bring everything on it to life.

To get started, think about what your goals are in the following areas: relationships, career and finances, home, travel, personal growth (including spirituality, social life, education), and health. You might want to create one single vision board or several with different themes. Either way, make sure to put them in places where they'll be seen often, like your bedroom or office.

Remember, if you picture the life you want, that life will begin manifesting around you.

​“See the things that you want as already yours. Know that they will come to you at need. Then let them come. Don’t fret and worry about them. Don’t think about your lack of them. Think of them as yours, as belonging to you, as already in your possession.” - Robert Collier

To further enhance the power of your visualization, take a minute to look at the image, close your eyes and allow yourself to feel the feelings as you would feel them just after whatever you are manifesting had already come to fruition.

When manifesting, vision boards are the punctuation of your thoughts. Feelings are the exclamation point of manifesting!

Vision Board Parties and Retreats are a fun way to gather with friends and family for an evening or a couple of days for a powerful activity to begin turning your dreams into your reality. To learn more about booking your group for a party or retreat at Ripple on Silver Lake email us at rippleonsilverlake@gmail.com.

If you're looking to shift your thoughts and explore limiting beliefs around money, consider playing the Prosperity Game! Learn more here: https://trishajacobson.synduit.com/CL0011

Even if you consider yourself a generally positive person, it’s likely that you still have many negative thoughts. We all do. It’s easier for the brain to remember the negative ideas, thoughts, and memories because they tend to affect us more emotionally. With a little bit of training, you can shift the way that your mind processes the world around you and change the trajectory of your future.

Your mind is more pliable than you think. Take a moment to think back to the last bad day you had. What caused it? Did a coworker say something negative? Did a partner not react to something the way you wanted them to? It all comes down to a single thought or action being replayed in your mind, creating a story in your head and leading to your bad day.

Now consider what would have happened if you had the ability to brush off your negative reaction and push aside the interaction to carry on with your day more positively. Once you flood your mind with a specific thought, you’ll begin naturally attracting things that align with that thought. So make it positive!

I invite you to pay pay attention to your thoughts and the words you speak out loud. 

For the first few days, simply track your negative statements with a simple hash mark on a piece of paper, a small notebook, or a sticky note on the refrigerator, or your phone. You might be surprised at the number of negative statements you make. Negative statements include blaming, complaining, judging, criticizing.

You may choose to engage the help of a partner, spouse or coworker in this activity with the goal of simply raising your awareness of how often you have negative thoughts.

Then, for the next few days balance your negative statements with positive statements. For every negative statement, you owe a positive statement. Or simply practice reframing the negative statement into a positive statement. 

If you choose to do it on your own, you can raise your awareness of negative statements by simply putting an elastic band on your wrist and switching hands each time you make a negative statement. This helps to bring unconscious negativity to the conscious. Once it's in the conscious, it's much easier to change and expand positivity, which is really important when manifesting the good things in life. 

Thoughts become things ... so think the good ones!

“You create your own universe as you go along.” -Winston Churchill 

This is an aerial view of the neighborhood surrounding my property I fondly call Ripple on Silver Lake (bottom right of the photo). Ripple is tucked back along the 90 degree span of Forrest Brook which runs from Silver Lake, goes under the Village Road bridge where the property line begins and takes a sharp turn (bottom and middle of the photo) along my back yard.

The property overlooks the Forrester farm, Mount Chocorua and some of the most spectacular sunsets in the Mount Washington Valley. As I look from this perspective, I see the White Mountain National Forest heading all the way north towards Mount Washington. I even see King Pine Ski Area (where I spend the better part of my winters) begging to be noticed on the upper right of the photo.

I find myself looking for a couple of the schools that I teach in, the village of Eaton where I go to pick up my mail and meet friends for breakfast and then up to Conway to buy groceries. But the view is too far away to see the details of those places.

Below are pictures of a close up of the house and Forrest Brook that runs along the back of the property. I love the details of the close up pictures. I can also see the spots on the lawn that need some TLC and the paint chipping in certain parts of the house.

I love how the aerial view helps me put things into a larger perspective.  Stepping out and away from the details and looking out over the big picture gives me a better sense of how my property fits into the larger landscape around me.

This also gives me an analogy for life.

I recently experience the culmination of what I am experiencing as years of pent up emotion coming to the surface to be expressed so it can be released. It was an up close and personal experience that involved conflict, hurtful patterns, unfortunate choices and a need for transformation.

In response to a breakdown in communication, I felt anger rising up inside of me out of nowhere. I can't remember the last time I felt such anger. I've read somewhere that anger might suggest an underlying fear. Based on my experience, I'd have to agree, but I still haven't sorted out the specifics of the fear. I reacted. I spoke in a harsh tone. I gave an ultimatum. And then I retreated. Physically. Emotionally. Inside the house looking over my limited view of my living room. Not even looking outside.

I allowed myself to feel all the feelings. Hurt, betrayed, let down, disappointed.. And more anger. The depth of my feelings surprised me, as did how long they lasted. I allowed myself to feel them fully and for as long as they stayed present in my mind and body. I set some boundaries around my time and space so I could allow myself to fully experience them. It felt important. And I stayed inside with my limited view and allowed myself time to process what had happened and how I was feeling about it.

Similar to the pictures below, I was close up. I noticed every detail. Every nook and cranny. Chipped paint, that imperfect spot on the otherwise beautiful lawn, the way the light and the sky reflected on the water, the many different shades of green, all the windows and doors leading inside and outside. And the dirt and dusty that clouded my vision.

In time, I allowed myself to go beyond the dust and dirt and go inside and go deeper and get a broader perspective. The feelings merged with the experiences that led up to the moment and I began to sift through it all. I stepped back and saw the bigger picture. And as I stepped back even more, I got a broader perspective. Just like the aerial view.

Now, as I look from the aerial view, I get a look at how it is all connected. I can no longer see the places where the imperfections lie. I no longer feel the triggers. Instead I see a beautiful interwoven tapestry. A vast perspective of the bigger picture and the beauty and perfection of it all. My emotions have shifted from anger, hurt and disappointment to calm acceptance, compassion and appreciation for the ability to step back and take in the big picture and put it all into some sort of perspective in the larger Universal order of things and frame it with gratitude and forgiveness.

There is a sense of sadness that comes along with stepping back and taking in this new perspective. A sense of distance and disconnect. There is no going back. Things will never again be what they were now that I see them from this new perspective. But in that space, there is room for expansion and growth and even wider perspectives.

And so, the question that begs to be asked is this, "What if it's all perfect just the way it is?" The paint chips, the dirty windows, that bare spot in the lawn, the emotions, the anger, the personalities, the judgment, the boundaries, the opportunity to reflect on the light and the sky as it dances on water, the choice to step back and reflect on the bigger picture and the more foundational feelings of anger and disappointment and fear as well as unconditional love, compassion, gratitude and forgiveness.

I've discovered that there is value in being immersed in the close up view and feeling the full emotions of that experience ... AND there is value in taking a step back and further back and further back again; making a choice to see things from the bigger picture aerial view to see how it's all connected. To get a glimpse of the beautiful tapestry that is being woven to connect us across time and space and perspective that we simply can't see when we're up close and in the middle of it all.

The anger still surges once in awhile. The hurt still hurts every so often. And fear sometimes pops up in places that surprise me. But when I'm able to step back and see it from a larger perspective, it is, indeed, perfect just the way it is. And if I practice acceptance and gratitude and allow things to unfold in their own time, for the greater good of all, I get to behold the tapestry that is being woven in and around all of us and connecting us to our growth, our learning and some sense of a power that goes way beyond us.

When I first moved into my house, I kayaked along the back of the property along Forrest Brook to explore what went beyond my view. What I found was something along the lines of that wonderful row boat scene in the Notebook when Noah and Ally discover a hidden gem complete with overhanging trees, a multitude of birds and a sense of peace and oneness with nature.

That's what I found beyond my view. along Forrest Brook. The tress. The birds. A sense of peace and oneness. But when I looked a little closer, I discovered all sorts of magical things. I saw fairies peeking out from unexpected places, tiny cairns and rock formations placed with care, for all to enjoy. I saw unexpected glittery surprises and  treasures hidden beneath the water. I saw a gnome nestled into the crook of a branch and another in hidden in the grass along the shore. Some things were easily reached with my hand or my paddle. Others were out of reach and carefully placed for maximum enjoyment.

I live in a small town and everyone seems to know everything about what's going on. I asked around and was told that it's a mystery that's been happening for years. Apparently someone or a team of someones have been leaving treasure on Forrest Brook for years. It's something the locals love to paddle to and see what new treasures have been placed there. Some describe tokens they took years ago and still have in their possession today. Some describe visiting on occasion just to see what's been added. Others love when kids visit them on the lake and they can bring them to discover the Forrest Brook treasures.

This morning over coffee, I think I saw the maker of the magic kayaking by quietly with another kayak in tow. It was empty. Perhaps transport for the treasures that had just placed. I got goosebumps and just watched them go by. I'll never tell.

How fun to be in on this simple secret that brings so much joy, delight and a little bit of magic to so many and for so long! Thank you, whoever you are, who passed by silently as I carried my coffee out to the deck early this morning. Thank you for the reminder that it really is about the simple things that bring us joy.

​May the joy you bring to so many others return to you on this beautiful day. 

Even if you consider yourself a generally positive person, it’s likely that you still have many negative thoughts. We all do. It’s easier for the brain to remember the negative ideas, thoughts, and memories because they tend to affect us more emotionally. With a little bit of training, you can shift the way that your mind processes the world around you and change the trajectory of your future. Your mind is more pliable than you think.

Take a moment to think back to the last bad day you had. What caused it? Did a coworker say something negative? Did a partner not react to something the way you wanted them to? It often all comes down to a single thought or action being replayed in your mind, creating a story and leading to your bad day.

Now consider what would have happened if you had the ability to brush off your negative reaction and not give it any power by creating a story to go along with it. What if you could push aside the interaction and carry on with your day more positively. Once you flood your mind with a specific thought, you’ll begin naturally attracting things that align with that thought. So make it positive! Thoughts become things ... so think the good ones!
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“You create your own universe as you go along.” -Winston Churchill

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I am an early riser. I woke up this morning with no urgent plan and the need to reflect, to integrate, to snuggle with my cat  Leah, and meditate as she purrs, and to just be before I get on with my day. Today I'm simply integrating the Ripple on Silver Lake Open House experience of this past weekend. 

After a wild year of illness, loss and grief along with countless miracles that allowed me the honor of purchasing this property, the Ripple has begun.

It was a wonderful weekend. It was energetically spectacular. The right people showed up at exactly the right time to give me a chance to connect with each person. We talked about upcoming programs, room setups for events they were considering holding at Ripple, lodging rates for my overnight rooms, my background and my coaching and training experience and how I see the Ripple community expanding as my vision continues to flow, evolve and expand.

Visitors shared their ideas for programs and their suggestions about people I should contact to further expand the beautiful energy field that is being created. People gathered in the living room the dining room, the kitchen, the porches and enjoyed refreshment and heart centered conversation. 

It was a beautiful sunny day with a wonderful breeze which enhanced the space with plenty of natural light and caused the sheer curtains to billow in breeze.

Energetically spectacular.

I spent a lot of time simply observing the energy, the flow, the responses as people wandered throughout the indoor and outdoor spaces. I watched the interactions, the new  connections being formed and previously made connections being realized or revitalized. I listened to the conversations which continued to reveal unknown connections.

In the barn across the mirror behind the bar, beautifully scrolled in metal art cursive is the word "Gather". It was one of the first pieces I bought for the space over a year ago after my brother painted and upgraded the lighting. The curtains came next. Simple sheers to bring the outside in. "Create an energetically appealing space for people to gather and the magic will unfold," I told myself. My version of "if you build it, they will come", I suppose.

And that is exactly what happened. They came. They commented on how wonderful the energy of the space was. And the magic unfolded.

It was an extra special treat to have three former owners visit ... each sharing stories about what the house was like when they lived there and some of the memories they had created. The house, built in 1903, has certainly experienced transformation and has been the source of memories for so many. It was amazing to listen to their stories and memories and feel even more connections to my own.

And now it's time to create more. More memories. More experiences. More transformation. More magic.

Today I plan to rest some. Then there are follow up calls and emails. A couple of appointments with people who are interested in the venue for their own events. And then a bit more preparation for our fundraiser yard sale this Saturday that will help support the Ripple on Silver Lake scholarship fund to support members of the local community who may not otherwise be able to attend our workshops. 

I named the center Ripple on Silver Lake after my Mom. But I informally call it The House That Jack Built after my teacher, mentor and coach, Jack Canfield, the Chicken Soup for the Soul guy and the leader of Breakthrough to Success where I first met Jack and connected to his work. He taught me about the Law of Attraction and coached me through the principles of success that have helped clarify my goals and turn my vision into a reality. I am so looking forward to sharing my story while teaching others to do the same at my Manifesting Magic with the Law of Attraction class coming up on July 14th. I hope you are able to join us! And I still have a couple of overnight rooms available!

This morning I had a vision of the house being used by Jack's community of coaches and trainers. It was the set of a TV edutainment reality series, The House That Jack Built, in which they bring their clients and share their transformation using the principles that Jack taught us. Perhaps Jack will really come here someday to see what he helped me create. I might just reach out to my Canfield family to see if there is any interest in putting together a series like this. After all, we all know how powerful this work is through the work we do with our students and clients and each other ... and this is a wonderful place for the Canfield family to gather!

In the meantime, the vision keeps unfolding, the energy is soothing and the possibilities are inspiring. ​

​I am an early riser. I woke up this morning with no urgent plan and the need to reflect, to integrate, to snuggle with my cat  Leah, and meditate as she purrs, and to just be before I get on with my day. Today I'm simply integrating the Ripple on Silver Lake Open House experience of this past weekend. 

After a wild year of illness, loss and grief along with countless miracles that allowed me the honor of purchasing this property, the Ripple has begun.

It was a wonderful weekend. It was energetically spectacular. The right people showed up at exactly the right time to give me a chance to connect with each person. We talked about upcoming programs, room setups for events they were considering holding at Ripple, lodging rates for my overnight rooms, my background and my coaching and training experience and how I see the Ripple community expanding as my vision continues to flow, evolve and expand.

Visitors shared their ideas for programs and their suggestions about people I should contact to further expand the beautiful energy field that is being created. People gathered in the living room the dining room, the kitchen, the porches and enjoyed refreshment and heart centered conversation. 

It was a beautiful sunny day with a wonderful breeze which enhanced the space with plenty of natural light and caused the sheer curtains to billow in breeze.

Energetically spectacular.

I spent a lot of time simply observing the energy, the flow, the responses as people wandered throughout the indoor and outdoor spaces. I watched the interactions, the new  connections being formed and previously made connections being realized or revitalized. I listened to the conversations which continued to reveal unknown connections.

In the barn across the mirror behind the bar, beautifully scrolled in metal art cursive is the word "Gather". It was one of the first pieces I bought for the space over a year ago after my brother painted and upgraded the lighting. The curtains came next. Simple sheers to bring the outside in. "Create an energetically appealing space for people to gather and the magic will unfold," I told myself. My version of "if you build it, they will come", I suppose.

And that is exactly what happened. They came. They commented on how wonderful the energy of the space was. And the magic unfolded.

It was an extra special treat to have three former owners visit ... each sharing stories about what the house was like when they lived there and some of the memories they had created. The house, built in 1903, has certainly experienced transformation and has been the source of memories for so many. It was amazing to listen to their stories and memories and feel even more connections to my own.

And now it's time to create more. More memories. More experiences. More transformation. More magic.

Today I plan to rest some. Then there are follow up calls and emails. A couple of appointments with people who are interested in the venue for their own events. And then a bit more preparation for our fundraiser yard sale this Saturday that will help support the Ripple on Silver Lake scholarship fund to support members of the local community who may not otherwise be able to attend our workshops. 

I named the center Ripple on Silver Lake after my Mom. But I informally call it The House That Jack Built after my teacher, mentor and coach, Jack Canfield, the Chicken Soup for the Soul guy and the leader of Breakthrough to Success where I first met Jack and connected to his work. He taught me about the Law of Attraction and coached me through the principles of success that have helped clarify my goals and turn my vision into a reality. I am so looking forward to sharing my story while teaching others to do the same at my Manifesting Magic with the Law of Attraction class coming up on July 14th. I hope you are able to join us! And I still have a couple of overnight rooms available!

This morning I had a vision of the house being used by Jack's community of coaches and trainers. It was the set of a TV edutainment reality series, The House That Jack Built, in which they bring their clients and share their transformation using the principles that Jack taught us. Perhaps Jack will really come here someday to see what he helped me create. I might just reach out to my Canfield family to see if there is any interest in putting together a series like this. After all, we all know how powerful this work is through the work we do with our students and clients and each other ... and this is a wonderful place for the Canfield family to gather!

In the meantime, the vision keeps unfolding, the energy is soothing and the possibilities are inspiring. 

I just returned from California where I was leading Jack Canfield's Success Principles Train the Trainer assisting team. As he was signing books for participants, we chatted about what was new and good. He asked me about my new retreat center, Ripple on Silver Lake. Apparently his wife Inga saw something I posted on Facebook about manifesting the property and brought it to Jack's attention. I fondly call the property "The House that Jack Built" because I manifested it using the principles he taught me. He asked me to write the story of how I manifested the property for a book he's working on.

Last night a conversation with a friend about shifting perspective reminded me of how inherent the manifesting process has become for me and how much I have learned about creating my best life over the past nine years. Lately I've been feeling inspired to share the process with others and clearly the Universe is supporting this!

This morning, as I reflect on my week in the training room with Jack and settle in to write the story of how I manifested this property, Facebook memories pops up with a notification from a year ago reminding me of the very foundation of manifesting magic. I think it's time to start sharing! For my first blog post, I'd like to talk about a simple three letter word that plays a huge role in the process of manifesting amazing things.

Joy.

Consider completing this assignment to increase joy in your life today: 

1) Brainstorm a list of 25 things that bring you joy.

2) Pick one of those things and do it right now! Yes! Right now.

Keep it simple. Very simple. For me, this morning it is simply reaching out to pet my cat. She purrs in response. While I write this Leah settles in alongside me for a nap, still purring. And my heart beats happy.

I punctuate the joy I'm feeling by looking up and taking a moment to simply look out the window. Spring is springing in New Hampshire and just seeing the color of the buds about to burst amplifies the joy I feel from my cat purring. 

Two minutes of joy. Actually two minutes and two seconds, for as I look out at the buds, a bird flies from the tree and out of sight. And Leah settles in beside me, still purring.

Now is the perfect time to take another minute to close my eyes and visualize what I'd like to manifest ...
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