Last night I went to Lights in Bloom at Selby Gardens in Sarasota.

I’ve always wanted to go, but this time felt a little special. I wasn’t there just to wander. I went to photograph an engagement ... not professionally, just as a favor to a friend of a friend. She took video. I took stills. It was fun to move through the crowd, stealthy, setting up without being seen so as not to spoil the moment.

The moment itself was sweet and joyful in that unmistakable way. He was so proud of himself for pulling it off. She was giggly, glowing, floating somewhere just above the ground. When he got down on one knee under the massive tree strung with thousands of lights, strangers nearby started applauding. It was spontaneous and kind and exactly what you hope a moment like that will be. And I loved being part of it.

Afterward, we wandered through the gardens. Two million lights were woven through trees, paths, water, and architecture. Selby sits right on the bay, and even at night you can feel the openness of the place. Beauty layered on beauty. Light everywhere. People wandering along the pathways, taking it all in.

As happy as I was soaking it all in, an old thought passed through and caught me by surprise. It’s one that used to land very differently than it did this time.

I’m so happy for them. But it’s not for me. At least not now. And maybe never.

Not with sadness.
Not with resignation.
Just clarity.

What I felt instead was contentment — a deep, steady kind. The kind that comes when you’re no longer trying to fit yourself into a story that isn’t yours.

I imagined coming back to Selby on my own. Getting a pass. Exploring every nook and cranny slowly. Perhaps sitting on a bench with my laptop, letting thoughts spill out while surrounded by beauty and water and light.

I wandered through the gift shop. It was beautifully curated and softly festive and calm. I didn’t want to rush. I didn’t want to buy everything, though I couldn’t help but be mesmerized by the hanging orchid display. I've never seen anything like it. I just wanted to be there, among them and their intricate beauty.

I’ll come back, I thought. And I meant it.
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Later, at home, with a cup of tea in hand, I looked around my living room. The day before I’d picked up a simple string of garland, some red berries tossed into a clearance bin, and a couple of strands of tiny white LED lights — all half off. Nothing fancy. Nothing overdone. Now they’re draped across the fireplace screen, quietly glowing.


That room has become a small sanctuary. A place for morning tea. For writing. For thinking. For being watched closely by my ever-present feline stalker, who sits next to the white ceramic Christmas tree my grandmother made in one of her first ceramics classes decades ago. It’s not trendy. It’s not perfect. And I love it deeply. Her hands are still part of my holidays and still part of my light.

As I sat there, I realized how full this all feels. Witnessing love without longing. Creating warmth without an audience. Honoring memory without being anchored to the past. Enjoying the peace and quiet. Choosing freedom without closing my heart.

Even losing my phone somewhere in the middle of it all was inconvenient. I still don't have it, but even that has not shaken the feeling that I am okay. I am grounded. I am present.
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This is the life I’m choosing right now.
Quiet.
Beautiful.
Intentional.
Often unplugged.
Not small.
Not lonely.
Just … mine.
And it feels exactly right.

​And here’s a gift to help you do it gently.
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December has a rhythm all its own.
Some people speed up.
Some people shut down.
Some people grit their teeth and try to just get through it. But there’s another option. It's one most of us forget. 

You are absolutely allowed to reset your life right now, long before the calendar flips to the new year.

A reset doesn’t have to be dramatic. It can be a simple, quiet realignment. Just one small shift toward what your heart may have been trying to tell you all year.

Many of us are carrying stress, sensitivity, and fatigue right now. I know I am. It's been a challenging year in many ways, Which is why I would like to offer you something simple, science-backed, and surprisingly powerful to support you as you wrap us this year and lean into the New Year.

I call it the Heart Reset Toolkit. Inside are the three practices I come back to over and over again whenever I need grounding, clarity, or connection:

💜 Heart Breathing
A gentle coherence tool developed by HeartMath that helps calm the nervous system in under a minute.
It’s been shown to reduce anxiety, depression, and overwhelm ... and honestly, it works faster than anything else I’ve ever used.

I’ve taught this tool to teens, parents, healthcare teams, professional speakers, and staff members in some very chaotic situations. Each and every time, I watch shoulders drop, energy soften, and a calm energy come over my students that wasn't there in the moment before they learned the tool. 

 💜 Heart Hugs
They’re real ... and they’re magic. Left cheek to left cheek. Heart to heart.

Years ago, I trained the entire ski school staff on how to give a real Heart Hug (the kind where you actually connect, settle, and breathe with another human), it changed everything. We practiced on each other first; with consent, of course. Then other departments started asking what we were doing because they could feel the energy shift across the mountain — even the clients noticed.

I taught a group of peer educators to do heart hugs and they went out and formed a Free Hug Team and taught and spread heart hugs (and serotonin) throughout the community.

One little hug. One sincere breath. And suddenly the whole world felt a little warmer.

💜 Heart Talks
When emotions run high and everyone wants to be heard, Heart Talks create the space for meaningful conversation rather than reactive conflict.

They’re simple. They're free. They're calm. They're respectful. And they come from a part of each of us that remembers what's really important. They take some practice, but they're well worth the effort.

I’ve used Heart Talks with teens in crisis, with staff during tough moments, and in my own life when difficult conversations needed to be had and when clarity felt miles away.

Why am I sharing all this now?
Because December asks a lot of us and in all the activity, we often forget how much choice we still have.

You don’t need a New Year’s resolution to feel better.
You don’t need a massive transformation plan.
You don’t need to “power through.”

Sometimes you just need one small reset that brings you back home to yourself.
A softer breath.
A gentler moment.
A deeper connection.
A clearer conversation.

That’s where the real change starts.

So today, I’m gifting you the Heart Reset Toolkit — my three favorite heart-centered practices, all in one place, easy to use and easy to teach to the people you love.

💜 Download it here.

Give yourself permission to reset now, not later.
You deserve to end this year feeling aligned, connected, and grounded in your own wisdom.
And, of course, feel free to share the link (or this blog) with anyone you think might benefit.

Every once in a while, you read something that doesn’t just land. It rearranges something inside you.
That happened to me this morning.

I stumbled across a post about van life, simplicity, and choosing a different rhythm than the one we’re taught to follow. And as I read Katie Beth's words, I felt this familiar tug in my chest, like someone had reached straight into my ribcage and flicked a light on.

What she described ... this idea of affording a different kind of life not through luck, but through choosing ... is exactly what this season of my life feels like.

Not the Instagram, Facebook, or TikTok version of choosing.
The real version.
The messy, liberating, sometimes terrifying truth of it.
The truth that says:
I afford this way of life because I choose it.
And I keep choosing it.

Letting Go of “Normal” (And Not Missing It at All)
There’s a subtle pressure we all absorb without realizing it. It's the pressure to buy a home, decorate our homes a certain way, maintain routines we never questioned, accumulate things that promise comfort but rarely deliver meaning.

For years, I lived inside that rhythm.
But now? I’m discovering what happens when you step outside it.

The simplicity I’m choosing isn’t a sacrifice. It’s a homecoming. I don’t miss the manicure appointments or the shopping trips or the mental clutter of constantly tending to things. There’s no grief for the stuff I’ve let go of. And what’s actually surprising is how quickly those things lose their grip once I created space for what my heart has been asking for.

Choosing simplicity has created room for:

• Quiet mornings with a cup of tea
• More time to curl up with Luna and Sundae
• Time in nature that feels like medicine
• A sense of freedom that doesn’t come with a price tag
• Clarity about what actually matters in this chapter
• A deeper connection to myself that I didn’t even realize I’d misplaced

This isn’t about deprivation. It is about trading distraction for presence, noise for clarity, pressure for peace.
And honestly?
It doesn’t feel like a trade at all.
It feels like remembering.

The Life You Want Begins Where “Should” Ends
There’s a moment ... sometimes subtle, sometimes seismic ... when you realize you don’t have to buy what the world is selling. You don’t have to live inside a script written by someone else’s fears, expectations, or traditions. You get to choose your life. You get to break the rhythm. You get to create something that fits your soul, not just your schedule.

I'm discovering that as I plan my next chapter, it isn’t accidental. It’s intentional. It’s chosen. For me, I'm planning to head out in the spring on an RV adventure. I'm looking forward to the freedom, the adventure, to  the quieter days by the water, to sunrises and sunsets, and endless days spent writing, wandering, resting, and choosing whatever seems like the next right step.

Coming Home To Your Heart
When you strip away the noise, your heart gets louder. It becomes easier to hear what you’ve been craving all along. It's hardly ever more things. It's almost always more meaning. It's never more obligations, but more presence and connection. Not more hustle, but more harmony.

If you’re in a season of transition or longing or reevaluating the life you’ve built, you are so not alone. The best part is that you don’t have to flip your world upside down all at once.

Sometimes the most powerful change begins with a single question:
What am I no longer willing to carry?

From there, there are only two choices. The choice that will take you closer to what you want. Or the choice that will take you further away. From one choice, freedom grows and your heart can lead the way.

Want a little support as you shift into a more heart-centered place? I created a simple, gentle resource to help you reconnect your breath with your heart as you move into a more heart-centered version of what’s next. 

You can download it here.

I was on fire. It was one of those mornings where purpose moves through you like a current — steady, alive, focused. And I was going to go with it until the current stopped.

And then the phone rang. Caller ID showed me that it was my dad. I answered.

He’s been trying to take back some of the responsibilities of managing his own life lately, like his PT, OT and doctor's appointment schedule. He realized that he had a doctor’s appointment at 10:30 am and no ride to get there. He doesn’t drive anymore and the assisted living facility he lives in need advance notice to coordinate rides. He was panicked. “Can you take me?” he asked. "Of course," I answered.

And just like that, the momentum I had been riding all morning met the truth of my life. I’m the CEO of a growing business. And I’m also a daughter caring for an aging parent.

Both things are true. Both roles matter. And sometimes, they collide at 8:00 am. So I closed my laptop, closed my eyes for a moment, focused on something I am grateful for, and took a deep heart breath to help me get grounded so I could step into the other part of my purpose — the sometimes chaotic part that doesn’t get scheduled or planned or color-coded in a project management tool. 

I became the daughter again. The driver. The support system. The errand partner. The calm voice in the panic.
And here’s the thing …

It doesn’t mean I lost momentum. It means I'm living in alignment.

There was a time when a day like this would have derailed me. I would have been stressed, resentful, and  overwhelmed by the interruption. I would have been looking at the clock, hurried to get back to my desk and to the work that was waiting for me. But here’s what I know now:

When I start my day grounded — centered, focused, connected to my heart — I can pivot without losing myself. I can shift from CEO to caregiver and back again. I can support my dad without abandoning my own purpose. I can take a detour without losing the direction.

This is the heart of the work I do. Not the strategy. Not the funnels. Not the blog articles or the upcoming webinar. But the inner capacity to move through life with grace, ease, and intentional love.

This is heart-centered living in real time. It’s showing up for your life in all the ways it needs you. It’s trusting that purpose isn’t fragile and it doesn’t disappear because life asks something of you. Purpose is durable. Flexible. Alive. And sometimes your greatest productivity looks less like checking tasks off a list and more like sitting in a doctor’s office holding space for someone you love.

Here’s the truth I’m learning (and perhaps you need to hear it too):
You don’t lose ground when you pause.
You don’t fall behind when you choose compassion.
You don’t break your momentum when you show up for real life.
You’re building a life that can hold everything you’re here for ... your work, your caregiving, your growth, your relationships, your purpose, your heart.

Some days you’re the CEO. Some days you’re the caregiver. Some days you’re both before 8 am.
And every version of yourself is part of your legacy.

My alarm went off at 2:45 a.m. I stumbled into the shower, got dressed, grabbed my bags, and drove an hour to the airport to catch my 6 a.m. flight. Three hours later, I was standing in the rental car line. Fifteen minutes after that, I was on the familiar two-hour drive north to Silver Lake.
As I followed the curve of the road along the water, I kept waiting for exhaustion to hit me.

It didn’t. Because this trip wasn’t about convenience.
It wasn’t about rest.
It wasn’t even about Thanksgiving dinner.
It was about a hug.
And not just any hug — the hug I knew I’d fly across the country for again and again.

The Look That Made Every Mile Worthwhile
When I walked into the restaurant where Nancy and Joe were hosting Thanksgiving, I immediately felt like I had come home. Earlier in the week, I had hopped on a Zoom call with them — all of us navigating major transitions, all of us overdue for a real catch-up. They’ve been my coworkers, my landlords, the sellers of the retreat center I purchased, my helpers, and ultimately dear friends for more than a decade.

On that call, they invited me to join them for Thanksgiving. It was a last-minute decision for them to host and an equally last-minute decision for me to book a flight. They were the ones who connected me with my Ukrainian family and everyone would be together for the holiday. I knew instantly what I needed to do.

When I arrived, I was greeted with warm hugs and the smell of smoked turkey drifting in from the kitchen. Only Nancy and Joe knew I was coming, so when my Ukrainian family pulled into the parking lot, I slipped into the kitchen and hid.

When Anastasyia, my unexpected soul daughter, stepped inside and saw me, her face lit up in a way that stopped time. Shock. Joy. Disbelief. Relief. All wrapped up in one expression I will carry with me forever.
She ran toward me. I opened my arms. And the hug that followed made every moment of lost sleep, layovers, and luggage worth it. Tamara, her mom, joined us, as did her younger sister, Sofia. It wasn’t a greeting. It was a reunion of hearts.

Thanksgiving dinner was delicious, of course. But the truth is, it was never about the meal. The real gift was simply being together again. We spent hours catching up, hanging out, playing games, laughing, and planning more time together during my visit.

This morning, I am exhausted, but deeply, profoundly grateful. As I sip my tea, I find myself taking a few deep heart-centered breaths and remembering back to the day I met them …

How It All Began: One Phone Call That Changed Everything
Sometimes life shifts in an instant, long before we realize we’re stepping into our next chapter. For me, it was August 2022 when my friend Nancy called and asked a simple question:

“Trish… do you have space to take in a mom and her two daughters from Ukraine?”

She told me about her and Joe's desire to sponsor the wife and two daughters of a former employee; to keep them safe from the war that had broken out near their home.

There was no grand plan. No certainty about what the future would look like. No shared language. Just a dad trying to protect his family, a mother and two girls fleeing a war, and friends who wanted to help. 

I said yes without hesitation. Not because it made logical sense — but because it felt like the most natural 'of course' I have ever spoken. I turned the small apartment on my property into a home for our new family: three beds, fresh sheets, warm blankets, and a place to breathe again.

The girls arrived quiet and wide-eyed. Their mother carried grief and shock in her posture. Their country was burning behind them. They were safe, exhausted, and unable to speak much English.

And yet somehow, through Google Translate, gestures, patience, laughter, and a thousand tiny moments … strangers became family.

A Family Woven by Circumstance, Chosen by Love
Together, with Nancy and Joe, we navigated:

• School enrollments
• Doctors and dentists
• Trauma and tears
• Holidays and birthdays
• Meals around the table
• Hard news from home
• A father and brother still in Ukraine
• Challenges no family should ever have to face from an ocean away from home

There is no roadmap for this kind of connection. There is only presence, compassion, and simply showing up.
And somewhere in the midst of all that showing up, love rooted itself deeply. It's the kind of love that doesn’t require matching DNA, only matching hearts.

Why This Hug Was Different
This year, as I wrapped my arms around Anastasyia, I felt the weight of everything we’ve walked through together; the fear that brought them here, the strength that blossomed in them, and the trust that grew between us. She hugged me the way a child hugs someone who feels like safety. And I held her the way you hold someone who changed your life without ever meaning to.

That’s the thing about love in times of adversity:
It doesn’t just comfort the one who needs shelter.
It transforms the ones who offer it.

The Gift I Carry Forward
When I finally laid down at the end of that long day, I was struck by something simple and profound:
I didn’t fly to New Hampshire to give anything. I flew home because the people waiting for me there are among the greatest gifts of my life.

I am grateful for the love that found me in the middle of crisis. I am grateful for the love that arrived unplanned, unexpected, and somehow perfectly timed, and for the reminder that some of the most beautiful chapters of our lives begin with a single, unexpected question:

Do you have room?

Turns out, I had room in more ways than one.

A Heart-Centered Invitation
If your world feels heavy or you’re navigating unexpected challenges as we move into the holiday season, I’d love to offer you one simple practice that’s helped keep me grounded through every step of my journey.
Heart Breathing is gentle, calming, and powerful — a quick way to reconnect with yourself when life gets loud… or when you simply want to feel gratitude more fully.

👉 Download the Heart Breathing Practice here.

pulls me straight into their humanity. It’s like I keep bumping into people I’m meant to see and who, for reasons I don’t fully understand, are meant to feel seen by me. 

And while all of this sounds lovely … there’s another truth happening at the very same time. I am swearing more than I ever have in my entire life. Drivers are rude. People are selfish. Crowds feel overwhelming. Politics feel deranged. And I don’t have an ounce of patience for nonsense.

My spiritual self connects deeply with every soul I meet while my human self is in the car yelling, “WTF!"  when the guy in the pickup truck with the MAGA sticker cuts me off in traffic.”

Both are true. Both are me. And honestly? Both are perfect. Because here’s what I’ve finally realized:

When you become more awake, the world doesn’t magically get softer. You just stop pretending the harsh parts don’t bother you.

Your tolerance for noise goes down.
Your sensitivity goes up.
Your clarity sharpens.
Your patience thins.
You stop blending into the world, and start moving through it.

Some days you offer wisdom and compassion that changes someone’s entire emotional landscape.
And other days you’re muttering the f-word because someone cut you off in a parking lot. It doesn’t mean you’re off your path. It means you’re actually on it. Because awakening doesn’t make you detached. It makes you real.

Awakening doesn’t erase your reactions. It makes you aware of them. Awakening doesn’t make you “above” the world. It makes you deeply present to it, even when it’s uncomfortable.

And here’s the part that’s been hitting me the hardest:
Every single encounter, whether soulful or stressful, is an invitation.

An invitation to pause. To notice. To breathe. To choose. To respond instead of react. To stay aligned even when the world around you isn’t.

And because of all this, the empathy, the overwhelm, the clarity, the irritation, I’ve returned to some simple yet powerful tools that have been saving me lately. Two of the tools I’ve leaned on every time the world feels too loud and my nervous system needs a lifeline. The third tool is a wonderful approach to communication when things lean towards challenging.

I’m calling it the Heart Reset Tool Kit

It’s a collection of practices that help you do the one thing we so often forget when life feels chaotic:
Pause. Breathe. Come back to yourself. Connect. And choose your next step from a grounded place, not a triggered one. These three tools have helped me stay centered when I’m caught between deep compassion and deep frustration. They'll help you sink back into your own calm, even when the world around you feels anything but calm.

So if you’re feeling this too …
If you’re both deeply connected and deeply irritated …
If you’re walking through your days with wisdom in one hand and an f-bomb on the tip of your tongue …
You’re not doing it wrong. You’re waking up.
And I made something to support you through it.
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There are seasons in life when the world feels like too much. Not just busy. Not just stressful. But viscerally overwhelming in a way that hits the nervous system before the mind has a chance to interpret it.

This past week, while watching the news, watching people minimize, deny, or distort, and watching cruelty get normalized and corruption get overlooked ... something in me cracked open.

It wasn’t shock. I’m long past shock. It was grief. Grief for the kids who were never protected. Grief for the adults who were silenced. Grief for the way trauma gets handed down through generations when people refuse to look at it. Grief for a country that seems unable, or perhaps unwilling, to tell the truth about itself.
And underneath it all, a quiet, steady ache in my soul that keeps asking:

“How do I stay human in a world like this?”

It’s the same question I’ve asked myself while helping my 88-year-old father transition through falls, hospitals, rehab, assisted living, and all the micro-losses and major decisions that come with the end of a life. It’s the question I ask when I’m trying to navigate his needs while also trying, finally, to fully live my own. There’s a specific kind of emotional whiplash that happens when you’re holding someone else’s aging, decline, paperwork, medication lists, doctor calls, money stress, personality changes … and at the same time trying to stay connected to your calling, your purpose, your work, your heart, your creativity, your future.

Some days it feels like split-screen living.

One world is grief, responsibility, and caretaking.
The other is possibility, freedom, and reinvention.

And then the news drops another bombshell and the world erupts again. And suddenly the split screen becomes a kaleidoscope of emotional noise.

This is the exact moment when people forget to breathe.
This is when we turn to old coping mechanisms.
This is when we lose our center.
This is when the simplest things feel impossible.
This is when I go back to one of the first things I ever learned in Jack Canfield’s training room:

The heart knows what to do.
The body knows how to come home.
But we have to help it remember.

Heart Breathing was the tool that saved me long before I understood how deeply I would need it and how often I would use it. I brought it into my classrooms and clinic without fanfare. It was just a simple practice to help kids regulate and to manage stress. I still remember the moment a teenager looked at me after a Heart Breathing exercise and said:

“Ms. J… this feels like smoking dope without the dope.”

He wasn’t trying to be funny. He was trying to tell me: “This makes me feel better. My brain feels different.” And he was right. It does change the brain. It shifts brain chemistry from adrenalin, the fight, flight, freeze neurotransmitter, to serotonin, the feel good. wellbeing, happy one. The exact chemical activated when a patient takes medicine prescribed for depression. I'm all for medicine when it's indicated, however I love having tools that work without a doctor's prescription anytime I choose to use them. 

Since that day in class, I’ve used these heart-centered practices to help:

• teens having anxiety attacks
• teachers on the verge of collapse
• a passenger on a plane having a panic attack during take-off
• nurses and social workers carrying impossible loads
• adults who can’t sleep because their minds won’t stop
• caregivers who feel like they’re drowning
• my own nephew who was anxious about going to summer camp
• myself, in hospital hallways, in hospice rooms, in the middle of grief
• myself, before each and every live or virtual presentation
• myself again, while trying to build a new chapter at 66
• myself again, watching the country unravel in real time

These practices have held me through every version of myself. And this year. with the holidays coming in fast, with family dynamics surfacing, with grief disguised as stress, and with the world feeling heavy in my chest, I knew I needed to share them again.

Not as a program.
Not as a pitch.
Not as another item on the “be your best self” carousel.
But as a piece of compassion.
A simple invitation back to yourself.
Something to help you breathe before you break.
Something to help you reconnect before you react.
Something to help you remember that your heart still works … even when the world feels like it doesn’t.

That’s why I created the Heart Reset. 
3 simple practices to create calm and connection with yourself, with others, and with a world that doesn't always make sense.

Because the holidays are beautiful. And the holidays are hard.
Because caregiving is sacred. And caregiving is exhausting.
Because the world is magical. And the world is cruel.
Because we are strong. And we are tired.
Because being human right now requires tenderness, tools, and truth.

And because I want you to have what I needed most these past few years:
A way to come home to yourself quickly, gently, reliably.
A way to connect when you feel disconnected.
A way to breathe again.

Share this with someone who needs a breath today.
And if you could use one, too …  the Heart Reset is waiting for you.

Last year at this time, I had just landed in Florida, disoriented and exhausted, still carrying the weight of packing up a life, selling a home, and walking away from a chapter that no longer fit. I called it “wintering,” even though I’d traded New Hampshire snow for Florida sun. It was a quiet, unsettling season. It was one of hibernation, healing, and holding my breath while the outside world (and my inside world) rearranged itself around me.

A year later, the landscape looks nothing like it did then. And neither do I.

What a difference a year makes.
Last November, I was sleeping in my dad’s guest room, still shaking off the reality of the move, tending to my 88-year-old father, and trying to make sense of an election season that left me gutted. I was reading books about rest because rest was the only thing I was capable of. I was writing because it was the only place my truth had somewhere to land. I was unsure, untethered, and strangely hopeful. I felt the quiet kind of hope you only feel when everything familiar has been stripped away but maintain faith  that it will all work out.

But this year? This year has been about rebuilding. Re-entering. Re-imagining. Reclaiming.

The year I learned what “wintering” really means.
I thought wintering was retreating. Pausing. Cocooning. It turns out wintering has been:

• learning how to navigate my father’s decline, hospitalizations, rehab, and eventual move to assisted living,
• stepping into the full-time caregiving role with both tenderness and boundaries,
• letting go of relationships that once felt like forever, including deep, soul-level connections I needed to step back from while taking the lessons I learned with me,
• starting and stopping projects until the right ones rose to the surface,
• grieving the parts of myself and my life I left behind,
• rediscovering the parts I thought were gone,
• celebrating the new parts of myself I never noticed,
• investing a significant amount of money in my personal and professional growth,
• ticking a couple of things off my bucket list, 
• and saying “no more” to the places, people, and programs that misaligned with my integrity.

Wintering wasn’t just rest. It was reckoning. And somehow, through all of it, clarity arrived. In the past twelve months, I:

• published a new mini book for parents and am working on another one for caregivers,
• published my Formula for Life Experience that connects my old work with my upcoming program,
• published my What Would Your Life Be Like If … ? Reflection Journal,
• submitted a major book proposal to someone who can help me take it all the way,
• built the foundation for a new business focus working with 50+ women leaning into their legacy,
• wrote deeply personal blog posts that helped me reclaim my life and my voice,
• mapped out my new From Career to Calling program that will launch in 2026,
• got behind the wheel of an RV for the first time and felt freedom in my bones,
• rebuilt my office, my systems, my workflows,
• and slowly, steadily found my way back to myself.

Not bad for a year I once thought I was “doing nothing.”

The biggest shift? I’m no longer wintering. I’m emerging.
The woman who arrived in Florida last year was tired in her soul. The woman writing this now is standing on the edge of a new kind of freedom; one she earned, step by step, boundary by boundary, truth by truth.

There is a lightness in me today that I didn’t have a year ago.
There’s clarity where there was fog.
There’s momentum where there was stillness.
There’s confidence where there was collapse.
And there’s hope; bold, grounded, unapologetic hope.

Winter didn’t break me. It remade me.
​A year later, I can see the quiet magic that was forming beneath the surface. I can see how the stillness was preparing me. I can see how the letting go created space for everything I’m building now.

Winter isn’t a season of death. It’s a season of deep, unseen growth. And this year, I get to experience the part that comes next: the thaw, the return, the expansion. And the part I often forget ... THE CELEBRATION!

How about you? If you are willing, please share where you are emerging this year. I'd love to hear from you either in the comments or at [email protected]

Reflection Questions: One Year Later

• Where were you one year ago, emotionally or spiritually? Who are you now?
• What did your own season of “wintering” teach you about rest, boundaries, and becoming?
• What parts of your life quietly transformed while you weren’t even looking?
• And as you look ahead, what is the new version of hope rising within you?
• How are you celebrating YOU?!

Here’s to the next chapter. The one after winter where the light starts returning and you realize just how far you’ve come.

Today was one of those rare, beautiful, wild, exhausting creative days. The kind of day where time disappears, ideas collide, and something inside rises up and says, “Yes. This is it!”

I worked for almost twelve hours straight. Not grinding. Not forcing. But fully present in the center of creation ... the place where your brain, your heart, and whatever magic fuels your purpose come into perfect alignment.

It was intense. Focused. Deep. In flow. At times overwhelming. And absolutely extraordinary.

I mapped out a pathway. I clarified my message. I wrote. I created graphics in Canva. I built pieces of a legacy I’ve been dreaming into for years. I made decisions that had been circling for months. I tied threads together that finally connected the bigger picture.

And through all of it, Luna was here. Not in the passive, “I’ll nap nearby” kind of way. Rather in the full cat as cosmic collaborator sense.

She sat on my papers. She positioned herself on top of my notes. She napped in the middle of my work.
At one point she walked across my keyboard and, yes! She deleted an entire graphic I had spent way too long creating and could no longer access.

I was furious for a moment. And then took a deep breath, got up, stepped back and took a break to reset my nervous system.

When I returned to my desk, I was able to recover the graphic. But the bigger lesson was already in motion.
Luna seems to know when my energy gets too tight, too clenched, too intense. She interrupts me at the exact moment I need to pause. She grounds me. She softens me. She reminds me that the magic doesn’t come from effort alone—it comes from alignment, breath, and presence ... and purring.

As I write this, she’s still here. Purring. Warm. Nuzzled against my hand as I type. Curled up in that way that only cats can ... in a shape that looks like both a punctuation mark and a blessing.

She is irritated by my typing. Her quiet presence is asking me the simplest, sweetest question:
“Can we go to bed now?”

And honestly? She’s right. Today was big. It was a day of clarity and creation and breakthrough. It was a day that reminded me what happens when I give myself time, space, focus, and permission to follow the threads of my own brilliance all the way to their end.

But my body needs rest. My soul needs softness. And my heart needs purring reminders that tomorrow will meet me where I left off.

So I think I will listen to her and let the next chapter unfold in the morning ... and follow the purr to bed.

You can build a lifetime of success and still wake up wondering:
What now?

It’s a question that whispers when the busy fades and the titles no longer define you.

Here are three quiet questions that often rise to the surface in those moments of reflection:

• Am I still making the kind of difference I was born for?
• What parts of me got left behind while I was busy achieving?
• What’s the legacy I’m creating in the moments no one sees?

They may sound simple, but answering them can change everything. Because meaning doesn’t retire.
It evolves.

If these questions tug at something deep inside, I created a short Reflection Journal to help you explore them.
It’s free. It’s gentle. And it might just be the first step toward what’s next.

Lately, I’ve found myself in a deeply contemplative space. I can’t help but wonder what this life is really all about.

Some days, the world feels almost unbearable. The cruelty, the bigotry, the greed, the endless chase for money and power makes no sense to me. The way fear has been weaponized. The way people justify hate under the guise of freedom or faith.

It feels like we’ve been given permission to reveal our darkest sides, and I can’t unsee it. The political noise alone can make me sick to my stomach.

And yet, beneath all that disgust and grief, there’s something else stirring. It’s a quiet knowing that this darkness isn’t new. It’s simply more visible now. The shadows have stepped into the light. Maybe that’s what real awakening looks like. Perhaps that is exactly what this moment in time is all about: the moment when everything that’s been hidden demands to be seen.

When it all feels like too much, I escape to nature; to still water, to trees that don’t care who you voted for, to the sound of wind that never lies, to quiet hotel rooms where I can rest from caregiving and the endless hum of other people’s opinions, and immerse myself in my writing.

I sit with tea and silence and remember who I am again. Deep down, I know I’m not meant to live in constant reaction to the chaos. I’m meant to get out of my head and live in alignment with my heart.
Lately, I’ve been surrounded by people who live inside the system — the pursuit of the “American dream,” the safe boxes of house, job, possessions, and retirement plans. My whole being craves something different.

Depth. Meaning. Soul.

Don’t get me wrong. I have nothing against the American dream. I’m grateful for where it has taken me and what I learned along the way. But at this point in my life, it’s not alive for me. I can no longer live from the neck up; I am at my best when I’m living from the heart down.

And that gap — between their world and mine, between the headlines and the quiet truth of my soul — is where I seem to exist these days.

On the edge of the noise.

I’m grieving my old life in New Hampshire. I miss the lake, sunrise over the mountain, sunset over the lake, and the rhythms I once knew. It’s been a year since I left it behind. I’m still adjusting to this new chapter: caregiving for my dad, sorting through the messiness of aging and family dynamics, feeling flashes of fear about money and the unknown.

And then there are moments that remind me to stop … or literally force me to. This week, I decided to take my RV for a ride. I had no particular destination in mind; I simply needed to be on the road. Instead, I sat behind the wheel, put the keys in the ignition, and started it. Nothing. Stone cold dead.
What was supposed to be my ticket to freedom, my symbol of mobility and adventure, sat there lifeless, quietly whispering: Not yet. Rest first.

At first I resisted. I made a call to help me fix what wasn’t working. I got voice mail. I hung up without leaving a message. Not yet. Rest first. So that’s what I’m doing. Resting. Listening. Remembering. A human being, not a human doing.

Because maybe that’s what this life is really about — not chasing power or perfection, but finding peace amid the noise.

Not escaping the world, but creating small ripples of love and awareness that heal it in ways we may never see.

We may not be able to fix the world’s madness, but we can refuse to become it. We can choose compassion over cynicism. Stillness over stimulation. Love over fear. And in those choices, I believe we begin to shape the only legacy that truly matters … one minute at a time.

✨ Reflection Prompt
Pause for a moment.
Breathe.
Ask yourself:
What if your peace is the point?
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It’s hard to believe it’s been a year since I sold Ripple on Silver Lake.

At the time, I thought I was simply letting go of a beautiful property; a peaceful lakeside haven that had served as a retreat for travelers, healthcare workers, and people seeking to learn and grow through the events we hosted. But over the past year, I’ve realized that Ripple wasn’t just a place. It was a living metaphor for everything I believe about legacy.

What happened there still continues in the conversations that sparked courage to take next steps, friendships that formed over morning coffee, and quiet moments when someone found clarity while overlooking a stunning sunset. The ripples didn’t stop when I handed over the keys. They’re still moving, carried forward by everyone who was touched by that space.

I’ve come to see that legacy isn’t something we leave behind. It’s something we lean into and create, one intentional act, one moment of connection, one ripple at a time.

This year has reminded me that we’re all creating ripples, whether we realize it or not. The key is choosing what kind of energy we send out. This past year has been one of immense challenge and deep transition for me. However, it's been balanced by the kind of freedom I've never quite lived before, guided by questions I've never quite asked, and answers I've never received. At times, I’ve felt gently nudged to take the next step. Other times, I’ve been pushed headfirst into it. But now, looking back, I'm grateful for the journey, the questions, the clarity, the guidance I've received along the way.

If you’ve been feeling that quiet nudge, that “what now?” whisper, or even a big push, perhaps it’s time to pause and notice the ripples you’ve already created … and explore the ones waiting to begin.

That’s why I created my 3-Question Mini-Journal. It's a short, heartfelt reflection tool designed to help you reconnect with your purpose, love, and legacy. It’s a simple starting point for your next ripple.

👉 Download your free 3-Question Mini-Journal here and take a few quiet minutes to see what’s ready to emerge in your next chapter — the one already rippling beneath the surface.

Because the truth is, your legacy isn’t somewhere out there. It's been with you all along. Now it's time to create it more intentionally, one ripple at a time.

Dreams are powerful. They spark excitement, drive ambition, and give us something to reach for. But dreams often come from the head. They’re shaped by logic, achievement, or what the world tells us we “should” want.

A calling, though, comes from the heart. It’s quieter, deeper, and far less interested in accolades or applause. It’s the whisper that says, “This is what you were made for.”

You can quit your dreams. We all do sometimes. We shift directions, change goals, or realize the dream we chased no longer fits who we’ve become. And that’s okay. Growth asks for honesty.

But your calling? That’s a different story.

You can try to quit your calling, but your calling won’t quit you. It’s patient. It’s persistent. It shows up in signs and synchronicities, in moments of restlessness and longing, in those times when you feel both lost and on the verge of remembering something important. It's that tug you feel when you’re out of alignment. That is your heart asking you to come home.

That’s what heart-centered living is all about; tuning back into that inner voice, the one that never stopped believing in you, even when you doubted yourself.

When we live from the heart, we stop chasing what looks good on paper and start following what feels true in our soul. We stop asking “What should I do?” and start asking “What feels aligned?” That’s where your calling lives, right there in the space between stillness and truth.

If you’ve been feeling disconnected, uncertain, or ready for something more, my free Foundations for Heart-Centered Living mini course is a simple, soul-nourishing place to begin. It will help you slow down, reconnect with your inner wisdom, and realign with what truly matters so you can move toward your calling  with clarity, confidence, and peace.

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"Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure."
~Paolo Cohelo, The Alchemist

If I allowed myself to feel it, I could be feeling guilty. My dad had a very difficult first night in assisted living. His fracture set him back, has affected his balance and he needs help with some of the tasks he was able to manage on his own before this latest rehab admission. The good news is that his new facility has the certification and the staff to support him while he regains his independent status. The not so good news is that a major miscommunication between administration and the clinical staff made for a very difficult night and an early morning SOS call from dad asking me to come right away.

What was supposed to be my first free day in over a week turned into another day consumed with having difficult conversations to reach acceptable solutions. In the midst of my frustration, I could feel my guilt rise up from that inside place it hides within me. If only I had figured out a way to bring dad home and arrange the care he needs at home in the only place he really wants to be

I caught myself. Really? Seriously? 

Lately I’ve crossed paths with several caregivers who, like me, are walking that uneasy bridge between what was and what’s next — the transition from rehab to assisted living, to permanent long-term care, or to a fragile version of “independent living” that depends on 24/7 help to make it work. For a couple of weeks, it wasn’t clear which path my dad’s situation would take. It could have gone any number of ways, and it wasn’t clear what my role would be in the outcome.

I started to feel frustrated. Maybe even resentful. I didn’t choose to live in Florida. I didn’t choose to ignore a walker and risk another fall. I’m not the only child my dad has. Yes, I’m the only daughter. Yes, I’m the oldest. Yes, I'm the health care professional that has always been the one to take charge when a health crisis hits. And yes, I’m usually the one to start the hard conversations — about living wills, healthcare advocacy, DNRs, POAs, and all the other things involved in living one's life.

The Caregiver’s Circle
Every day at rehab or the assisted-living facility, I run into a familiar crowd, mostly women, doing the same dance. We pop in for our daily check-ins, making sure our loved ones are eating, monitoring their PT/OT progress, collecting their complaints, solving their problems, and bringing in the little things that might make them more comfortable.

We talk in hallways and waiting rooms about how tired we are. And then we rush off to handle one more phone call, one more form, one more crisis.

A few things have become painfully clear:

• Most caregivers are women who are also senior citizens themselves, managing their own health issues and their own lives, while also managing someone else’s life.
• Many of us are consumed by what we should do, or what we think we must do, to be “good” daughters, wives, sisters, or friends.
• Very few of us are good at putting on our own oxygen masks first.

We put ourselves last. Our time, our energy, our needs are always secondary. And typically, we only begin to focus on ourselves when the demands and the stress of caring for another make us burn out or collapse from sheer exhaustion.

Once the system realizes a patient has an engaged advocate, the calls, texts, and decisions never stop. It’s endless. And somewhere in that chaos, we forget that our loved ones are being taken care of, even when we’re not there. We forget that sometimes, they’re even better off figuring a few things out on their own. We forget that not everything is an emergency that needs to be handled immediately. 

It’s okay to take a break. It's okay to shorten our visits to make time for whatever else we would rather be doing.  It’s okay to skip a visit for a day — or two, or three. It’s okay to watch a sunset, sleep in, or have  dinner without checking your phone.

Because caregiving shouldn’t mean disappearing from your own life.

The Invisible Load
Many of us were raised to believe that caring for everyone else is our job — our identity, even. We cared for our children. We cared for our spouses. We managed households, careers, and communities. And now, just as we’re beginning to imagine retirement or freedom, we find ourselves caring for our parents; a generation living longer than ever before, often well into our own senior years.

The guilt is palpable. We say things like, “It’s what we have to do.” or "It's what we should do." I found myself telling myself, "He taught me how to use a spoon and how to do so many things. How can I not do this!" But, when I'm in the thick of it, I find myself asking, Why? And why me?

Why do we assume we’re the only ones who can handle it? Why do our siblings get to plan their retirements while we manage medications, paperwork, doctor visits, and everything else involved in living someone else's life? Why does the system for elder care feel so fragmented and so dependent on unpaid, exhausted family members to hold it together? And perhaps the hardest question of all: Why are we so attached to prolonging life at all costs, even when quality of life fades away?

Sometimes I wonder what would happen if we simply stopped, even for a moment, and looked at the bigger picture. Another conversation for another day, perhaps ...

Gratitude in the Middle of It All
For all my questioning, I am grateful. immensely grateful, for the closeness I shared with my mom before she passed. For the deepened bond with my dad these past few years. For the caregivers — the nurses, aides, therapists, and companions — who consciously choose this work every day. They are, without question, earth angels.

Caregiving asks more of us than we ever thought we had to give. And yet, within that asking, it reveals something extraordinary. It shows us our capacity for love, for patience, for grace, which, I believe is why we're here living this one precious life.

But what about balance?

Maybe we don’t have to carry it all. Maybe it’s enough to love fiercely, show up honestly, rest when we can, and ask for help. Maybe that’s what “what we have to do” really means.

These are the reflections that inspired me to write Caregiving Essentials: What to Say, Do, and Prepare Before Caregiving Becomes Your Second Full-Time Job — a practical guide for high-capacity women navigating aging parents, tough decisions, and caregiving curveballs with clarity, confidence, and compassion. If you’d like to follow along as I write — and be the first to know when the book is released — I’d love to have you on my list.

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The doorbell rang at 9 a.m. sharp, and a very long, emotional day began. The movers arrived,  efficient and focused, ready to transport the pieces of my dad’s life to his new home. His recliner, reading lamp, desk, mattress, bed frame — all the familiar things he hasn’t seen in over three months while he's been in rehab. 

He’s been talking for weeks about how much he’s looking forward to his own bed, his recliner, his TV, his book shelf. The simple comforts of home. But the truth is, he thought he would be enjoying them back at home. Instead, we’re setting them up in his new assisted living residence.

As I followed the moving van, tears streamed down my cheeks. A pang of guilt crept in; the kind caregivers know too well. That whisper that says, if only I could have done more, maybe I could have brought him home.
But I know the truth. His days of independent living are over.

And finally, he knows it too.

It took a long time for him to get there. There were months of therapy, countless conversations, and gentle but firm feedback from his PT, OT and clinical care team to break through the denial that had held on for so long.

So many emotions — for him, for me, for all of us.

When I closed the door on the house, I looked around at the empty spaces where his furniture had been. Dust bunnies gathered in the corners served as a quiet reminder of how much had changed. I thought about cleaning, rearranging, making the house feel like home again, but not now. Later.

I got in my car, wiped my tears, and followed the movers.

My cousin came to help me set up Dad’s room, making the bed, unpacking boxes, arranging the small touches that make a new space feel familiar.
Then I drove to the rehab center to pack up the last of his belongings — the clothes, the photos, the snacks he’d tucked away. When I finally got home that night, I collapsed into bed, completely spent.

The next morning came early. At the rehab center, more logistics awaited — paperwork, medical forms, meetings with staff. There were lots of hugs, and goodbyes to the staff who had cared for him so well. Evelyn, the wheelchair van driver who had transported Dad to appointments these past few months, greeted us with a hug and rolled dad into the van for the ride to his new place. Adriana, his home health aide who had become part of our family, came to help him transition.

As Evelyn pulled away, I followed. Stenciled on the back doors were the words Brookdale Senior Living — Dad’s new home. Through the window, I could see the back of his head just above the seat. I snapped a photo and sent it to my brothers: We’re all packed up and on our way to Dad’s new place.

And the tears came again. What was supposed to be a six-month visit to “get eyes on Dad” has turned into eleven months of falls, hospital stays, rehab, and decisions, along with wonderful conversations, new stories I might never have known, and a newfound respect for the man who taught me how to use a spoon.

And now, we were beginning a new chapter.

Truth be told, I’m looking forward to getting my life back. I hope Dad adjusts well and finds comfort in his new surroundings. With that will come, I hope, some much-needed freedom for both of us. I’m grateful that I stood strong and that I waited patiently, or shall I say mostly patient, while Dad came to his own realization about needing more support.

This morning the house is quiet. His walker and cane have been put away. The space is no longer the home my parents built together so many years ago. There’s still so much left to do. Shortly I will head out to meet with Dad's PT and OT team and then I'm taking the day off from everything. I think I’ll head to the beach — to sit, breathe, and simply be for a while. I'll bring my laptop just in case I feel compelled to write ... but only if truly inspired.

There are the moments from my caregiving journey that I’ll never forget; the raw, real parts of caregiving that break you open and teach you what love looks like in action. They’re also the moments and the stories that continue to inspire my upcoming book, Caregiving Essentials: What to Say, Do, and Prepare Before Caregiving Becomes Your Second Full-Time Job, a practical guide for high-capacity women navigating aging parents, tough decisions, and caregiving curveballs with clarity, confidence, and compassion.

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I am tired. Bone-deep, heart-heavy tired. It's the kind of tired that doesn’t just come from lack of sleep but from weeks, maybe years, of carrying too much, holding too many details, and trying to make life a little easier for someone else.

The past few days have been a whirlwind. I’ve been packing, organizing, cleaning, shopping, coordinating with nurses, administrators, movers, and family members to prepare for my dad’s move into assisted living. The furniture is arranged for wheelchair navigation. The kitchen is stocked. The bathroom has been made safe. The bed is made with bed rails installed. The closet is organized. And all the paperwork ... so much paperwork ... is filled out, signed and delivered.

It has literally been endless motion for days. And tomorrow, my dad will move into his new home — a space that represents both relief and heartbreak, endings and beginnings and a profound sense of letting go.

And I am completely wiped out. I haven’t written a blog post or any words in the new book I'm writing in at least a couple of weeks. I haven't done a thing for my business. I haven’t followed up with clients or sent an email or made progress on the course I'm developing. I've missed several appointments because I haven't been paying attention to my own calendar or my own schedule. Only dad's  My brain wants to say I’ve accomplished nothing.

But my heart knows that is simply not true.

Because here’s the thing about caregiving: it doesn’t fit neatly into productivity checklists. There’s no line item for “held steady through a major life transition.” No checkbox for “kept love alive through exhaustion.” No bullet point for “showed up again even though it hurt or was frustrating.” This is the work. The deeply human, soul-level work of showing up with compassion, patience, and love  even when you’re running on fumes.

I'll write about it later when I'm not so deeply in it. When I'm not so tired. When I know Dad is settled into his new environment and has everything he needs to adjust to his new environment and his new life. And when I have the energy to go back to his house and rearrange what is left of the furniture to set up my own space to rest, recover and rediscover my own new routine.

But tonight, I’m choosing to stop the endless list-making. I’m choosing to rest without guilt. To let the exhaustion mean what it really means: that I’ve poured my energy into something sacred. Perhaps that’s what “doing enough” really looks like.

Tomorrow, I’ll take my dad to his new home. I’ll help him get settled, hang a few photos, and sit for a while before I head home. And then, maybe, I’ll breathe again.

Caregiving isn’t just about caring for someone else. It’s also about remembering to care for ourselves in the process. That’s the lesson I keep learning, again and again — and it’s one worth sharing.

These are the real, raw moments that inspired me to write Caregiving Essentials: What to Say, Do, and Prepare Before Caregiving Becomes Your Second Full-Time Job. It's a practical guide for high-capacity women navigating aging parents, tough decisions, and caregiving curveballs with clarity, confidence, and compassion.

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September 27th marked eight years since my mom passed. Two years before her death, my caregiving journey began while visiting my parents while in Florida on a business trip. We had just sat down for dinner when my mom had a stroke. I remember that moment like it was yesterday. And looking back, I had no idea how long or how deep that path would go.

On the morning of the 27th, I found myself in quiet conversation with mom. I asked her to help me with the situation with my dad. We were coming to the end of his rehabilitation. I had met with the social worker and dad's PT/OT team. Decisions needed to be made about next steps. Dad was overestimating his ability to return to independent living and seemed to be in denial about his options. And I had a myriad of emotions happening inside of me. Sadness, frustration, guilt, and fear to name a few. I needed help to sort through it all. Over the years, I’ve learned to trust in spirit communication and to lean into the whispers, nudges, and unseen presence of those who’ve gone before us. "Please mom, talk him through this," I asked. "Help him break through his denial."

And then, something miraculous happened.

The next night I went to the rehab to have dinner with Dad. The past two visits had been difficult as dad was still hopeful and talked about getting discharged to home. I tried to guide the conversations back to reality and quickly got frustrated when he met me with resistance. But that night was different. Dad took a few bites of his cheeseburger, put it down and began speaking. In a calm, measured tone he told me he was ready to go to assisted living. I was shocked. There was no resistance. Only acceptance.

He continued. He said it was time for him to stop driving and asked if I could look into returning his leased vehicle to the dealership. Wait! What? Those are words I honestly never thought I’d hear.

But it didn't stop there. Even more surprising, he asked if I thought it would be best for him to move to a facility in New Hampshire or Rhode Island so it would be easier for us kids to manage.

I was literally stunned. I got goosebumps all over my body. I'll call them mom bumps. It was as if she was in the room with us.

Then came the moment that broke me wide open: he told me he appreciated everything I’ve been doing for him. And then he said, “It’s time for you to start your own retirement life. You should not be living mine.”

I don’t think I’ll ever forget that moment. 

It feels like a door has cracked open — one I wasn’t sure I’d ever see. After years of resistance, worry, hospital stays, and hard conversations, to hear my dad’s own words of readiness and release feels like grace.
Maybe it’s coincidence. Maybe it’s the quiet work of a daughter asking her mother for help from the other side. Either way, I feel the shift. And I am so deeply grateful. 

I came to Florida to get eyes on my dad. It was supposed to be for a few months. Several falls and hospital admissions later, it has turned into almost a year. My life was becoming his life. I was adjusting, but I was not living my best life in a place I wanted to be living it. Life had become slow, sedentary, waiting for the next fall, or the next doctors appointment, or the next thing to manage for him. But for the first time, I felt a glimmer of freedom. 

Caregiving has taught me again and again that the most unexpected gifts come when we least expect them: a softening of heart, deeper understanding of my parents as human beings, immense gratitude, a moment of clarity after years of resistance. Last night, I felt it all.

These are the moments I write about in my upcoming book, Caregiving Essentials: What to Say, Do, and Prepare Before Caregiving Becomes Your Second Full-Time Job. It's a practical guide for high-capacity women navigating aging parents, tough decisions, difficult conversations, and caregiving curveballs with clarity, confidence, and compassion.

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Several weeks ago, I opened the door to my storage unit in New Hampshire for the first time in almost a year. There was my former life. Stacks of boxes, bins, and furniture tucked away in that cold metal space waiting for me to come back to the life I left behind.

It hit me like a wave — I don’t have a place that’s truly mine right now.

When I sold my property, I headed to Florida to get eyes on my dad. Six months was the plan. A couple of falls and subsequent hospital and rehab admissions extended my stay until now. 

I'm in his house, not mine. And now we're facing dad's next steps with lots of uncertainty that needs to be sorted out. We just got the word that he will most likely not be able to come home, for his own safety. When he transitions to a facility, his home will be sold, and I’ll be out. I have my RV — and someday that will be an adventure again — but right now it feels more like another responsibility rather than the freedom it did when I bought it a couple of months ago. And so it, too, is tucked away in storage.

This season of my life is a liminal space. It's my in between. It's not quite where I was, not yet where I’m going. It’s caregiving, decision-making, grieving, holding space for my dad’s emotions, and trying not to lose myself in the process. And did I mention that today is the eighth anniversary of my mom's passing? 

It's becoming a lot. What's next for dad? Where do I land? What’s mine? Who’s got my back? 

And then I remembered: I do.

Woven through the heaviness, I’ve found glimmers of freedom:

• Sacred sunsets over the ocean.
• Curling up with my cats and taking in their purring vibration.
• Pouring my heart into writing.
• Creating the program I'll be launching in February.
• Cheering on the WNBA playoffs.
• Short bursts of travel that remind me who I am outside of caregiving.

These aren’t escapes. They’re rehearsals for the bigger freedom that’s ahead.

The truth is, I don’t feel sick. I’m not broken. I’m not powerless. I’m in between. And instead of calling it “stuck” or “waiting,” I’ve chosen a new name for it:

✨ Strategic Patience ✨

It’s not passive. It’s deliberate. It’s rooted in trust that what I’m doing right now. I'm supporting my dad, sorting through a lifetime of belongings, and tending to my own heart in small but powerful ways. It is laying the groundwork for what comes next.

So I’ve created a new affirmation:

“I am gratefully living my life right now with strategic patience.”

Every time I say it, I breathe a little easier. I remember that I’m not wasting time. I’m investing it.

Strategic patience. It's perfect.

The way I see it, I'll likely be here until spring. The steps I am taking now are getting me closer and closer to the freedom that my soul has been longing for.

Maybe you’re in your own “in-between.” Waiting for clarity. Waiting for change. Waiting for the right timing.
If so, I offer you this. Your waiting is not wasted. Your patience is not weakness. It’s strategy. It’s wisdom.

Set your boundaries. Look for the places that bring you joy in the moment. Find your anchors in the little rituals or sacred pauses that remind you who you are. Let them hold you steady until the bigger freedom arrives.

And when the panic whispers, take a deep breath and fill your heart with gratitude as you remind yourself:
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You are living your life — right now — with strategic patience.

This week, something clicked for me to help explain the funk I've been in that I haven't been able to get myself out of. 

On September 27, 2017, my mom passed away. In the days leading up to her death, I sat vigil at her bedside, shuttling back and forth between the hospice house and the sunset, clinging to those few minutes of soul-connection before returning to mom's bedside to whisper goodnight.

She had slipped into a coma by then. There were no more words, just waiting for what we knew was coming and what we couldn’t control. Waiting for her final breath.

Seven years later, I find myself in a strangely familiar rhythm. My dad is 89. He’s declining. He’s weaker than he was when he fell three months ago and started this latest round of rehab. Once again, I am keeping vigil. I'm visiting, watching, waiting. Different details, same ache.

​In addition, the state of the world is deeply affecting me. 

Yesterday, it all caught up with me. I lost it.

On one hand, I said what needed to be said. I broke through Dad’s denial about how much strength and independence he’s already lost and what that might mean for his next steps. As I reflected on our conversation, I also touched my own fear. I touched the fear of losing my own life and my own freedom in the midst of his process, just as I once lost myself years ago with my mom.

The truth is, I would never trade those final days with her. They were a gift I still hold dear. Even amidst the incoherent mumbling from her last stroke, she had unexplained moments of crystal clarity in which she shared her last words of wisdom with me. I was there when she took her last breath, and that is a memory that is sacred to me.

The same is true for the time I've spent with my dad over the past ten months. I've enjoyed them immensely.  But here’s the other truth: I am not who I was in 2017. I'm eight years older. I am retired now. I sold my retreat center property and finally have the freedom I've worked so hard for all my life. I cannot let myself be swallowed whole again. And yet, there are times when I feel like I'm being swallowed whole all over again.

I’m not going to see Dad today. I need a break. I need a reset. A day just for me with my own thoughts, my own preferences, my own space, my own life. I need a pattern interrupt. I need to name the echo. I need to say out loud: This isn’t 2017. This is now. I am older, wiser, and stronger. and I get to choose how I show up.

It means letting myself honor the grief without drowning in it.
It means remembering that my spark, my life, my needs, my preferences, and my purpose matters too.
It means asking different questions. Perhaps this is a good place to start:  

What if I could honor my dad without losing myself? What does that look like?

If you’re carrying echoes of your own grief, exhaustion, fear, repeating patterns, I invite you to try this with me. Start with one small question. Give your heart a crack of light, a place to rest.

👉 Download my free 3-Question What If Journal here and let it guide you back to yourself, one question at a time. Because even in the midst of waiting, even in the midst of loss, there is still life calling us forward.

Facebook has a way of sneaking up on me. Sometimes those “memories” are lighthearted — a funny post, a vacation snapshot, a sweet reminder of a moment with friends. Other times, they open a floodgate.

This week, sitting in Indianapolis with my friend Starr, I was transported back to one of the most difficult chapters of my caregiving journey. The memory: evacuating my parents’ home ahead of Hurricane Irma. My mom had just suffered a massive stroke that robbed her of her ability to communicate. She’d been transferred hours away to a new hospital. Dad and I were forced to leave the danger zone without knowing when we’d see her again.

Eighteen days later, she was gone.

I can still feel the weight of that season — fear, uncertainty, heartbreak — all woven together with a strange calm that came from focusing only on the “next right step.” I remember the calls from doctors and nurses who promised they’d take good care of her until we could return. I remember the love and prayers pouring in from friends. I remember whispering gratitude, even as life turned upside down in an instant.

And now, ten years later, I sit in a quiet apartment with Starr, another caregiver whose path has overlapped with mine in so many ways. She has walked her parents all the way home. Today, she serves others as a hospice nurse and helps others along their way. I am still walking alongside my dad.

We’re here in Indy, taking a pause from the weight of responsibility, laughing together, swapping stories, and preparing to cheer at the Indiana Fever’s final home game of the season. There is such beauty in this friendship forged in fire, perspective shaped by loss, and the resilience to keep showing up even when the journey feels endless.

Caregiving is like that. It asks more of us than we think we have. It stretches us, humbles us, and breaks us open. And yet, within it, there are gifts: the slowing down, the deepening of love, the discovery of where our limits lie, and the rediscovery of what really matters. 

I once wrote in that moment of chaos, “There will be a book.” Today, I am writing that book. It's a mini-book, actually. It's an honest, open take on caregiving that focuses on the things I know are most important for caregivers and that some people never talk about. 

The working title is Caregiving Essentials: What to Say, Do, and Prepare Before Caregiving Becomes Your Second Full-Time Job. It's a practical guide for anyone, but especially targeted towards for high-capacity women navigating aging parents, tough decisions, and caregiving curveballs — with clarity, confidence, and compassion.

If there’s one truth I carry from a decade of caregiving, it’s this: life can turn on a dime. Hug your loved ones. Take the picture. Say the words. And when the storm comes, because it will, be prepared and trust that you’ll find the strength to take the next right step.

Be first to know when the book launches. Get updates, behind-the-scenes notes, and launch info about
​My Caregiving Essentials here. 

The calendar says September, though my body still feels caught between seasons. Summer slipped past in a blur of caregiving, work, travel, and the kind of decision-making that leaves you teetering at the edge of burnout.

Some days, I’ve been pulled so far into the all-consuming swirl of caring for Dad, planning my upcoming virtual live event, and managing the moving parts of both my life and his life that I’ve barely stopped long enough to catch my breath.

And yet, there are these small moments, these quiet gifts, that call me back to myself.

Like the weight of Sundae stretched across my lap, her slow, steady purr vibrating against me. Or Luna  curling up nearby, keeping watch with that calm, knowing look only cats seem to master. She, too, is purring. Science tells us a cat’s purr can lower stress, slow heart rate, and even help heal us. I don’t need the research to confirm it—I feel it in my bones. Their presence is grounding. A reminder to exhale.

And then there’s the ritual of tea. The warmth of the mug in my hands. The way steam curls into the air like an invitation to pause. The sweetness of a bit of honey. Just a few sips can reset something inside me. It' s like hitting the “refresh” button on my spirit.

That’s what today feels like ... a pause and a sip of serenity in the middle of it all.

September always carries a certain type of energy for me. It's a gentle nudge to look at the calendar differently. It's a reminder that time is moving forward. Kids are heading back to school, the weather is beginning to change, and the holidays are closer than they seem. I am in the middle of developing a new program called From Career to Calling. Until today, the launch date was early November. 

As I sat in my chair sipping tea to the purring of Luna and Sundae and contemplating what still needs to be done to prepare for the launch, I could feel the stress rise up from inside of me. And then I heard the old familiar voice in my head say, "You've got this! You can do it! No problem." Typically, I would go with that voice, but this morning, another voice rose up within me. It was more quiet, but it was quite powerful. "Rest. Relax. You first." My sense is that my soul took over the voice in my head. I immediately felt a warm sensation in my chest. Almost like my heart was wrapped in a warm blanket. My soul had challenged my head to turn the volume down. And in my heart I knew what I needed to do.

I rescheduled my From Career to Calling launch to February 5–7, 2026. This will give me time to slow down, to support my dad through his next major transition, and to allow me the time and space I need to take care of myself, to embrace the learning curve I'm currently immersed in, and have more time to enjoy my life, time with my dad, my writing, and spend more time over tea and cats and the ocean. 

Just one decision to move the date of my event and I can feel the spaciousness of planning ahead, instead of cramming one more thing into an already crowded season.

Life doesn’t always give us big open spaces. Sometimes we have to carve them out in small ways—like choosing to sit with a cat purring on our lap, a cup of tea in hand, and permission to simply be —to see what emerges.

Today, I am choosing presence over productivity. Clarity over confusion. Serenity over striving. Breath over burnout. And it feels so good!

I’m curious …

What would your life be like if you pressed pause, took a deep breath, and gave yourself permission to rest—even just for a moment?

If you’ve ever felt like AI is either a shiny distraction or a looming threat, you’re not alone. The truth is, AI is neither magic nor menace — it’s a tool. I've been using AI since ChatGPT first became available to the public. A dear friend and colleague called me and asked me if I had heard of ChatGPT and sent me a link to an online training that was starting the next day. It was last minute. I happened to be free. I was curious. We both dove in. And I literally couldn't believe what I learned in two days and how it has changed my life and my work. 

This morning I was working with a woman who wants to write a book and use it to help market her business. She is feeling overwhelmed and stuck. I suggested we use AI to infuse some energy and ideas into her project. She objected profusely. I was surprised. I literally use AI on a daily basis in way that save me time and money and free me and my brain up to spend more time doing what I'm best at. 

Today I was inspired to write a blog post about it and share some tips.

AI is a tool. And like any tool, its value depends on how you use it. When you use AI intentionally, it can become a powerful partner in helping you bring your vision to life, achieve your goals faster, create more income, and create more space in your life for what truly matters to you.
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Start With Clarity
Before you type a single prompt into ChatGPT (the AI I use) or another AI tool, get clear on where you’re headed. What’s your big-picture vision? What goals matter most to you right now? AI works best when it knows the direction you want to go. If you don’t have that clarity, you risk wasting time chasing shiny outputs that don’t actually move you forward. It can be great fun to play with AI, and trust me I've done my fair share of that, but It can turn into a time suck if you're not careful.

Think of AI as your GPS — it’s only as good as the destination you give it.

AI as Your Thinking Partner
One of my favorite ways to use AI is for brainstorming and refining ideas. I’ve used it to name programs, outline book chapters, and even challenge my assumptions. As you may know, I'm trained as a medical provider. My dad came to me recently with a funky looking rash and I had no clue what it was. AI helped me sort it out, see the urgency of the situation, protect myself from exposure and get my dad to his doctor to be treated right away. 

AI is like having a collaborator who is endlessly patient, willing to generate twenty variations, and never takes it personally when you say, “Let’s try again.” And then applauds you for your insight, efforts and contribution to the end result.

Freeing Up Time Through Automation
AI can take the repetitive, energy-draining tasks off your plate. Need a first draft of an email? A blog outline? A summary of a meeting? AI can get you 80% of the way there, so you can focus your time on the human touch that makes your work uniquely yours.

The same applies to your personal life. AI can help you plan meals, organize your travel, or create a packing list so you’re not up at midnight wondering if you remembered your toothbrush.

Using AI Wisely
To get the most out of AI:

• Give it context. The more it knows about your goals, your audience, and your style, the better it can serve you.
• Don’t settle for the first answer. Ask for alternatives, reframe your prompt, and iterate.
• Keep your judgment in the driver’s seat. AI can help you create, but it can’t replace your values, intuition, or lived experience.
• Be mindful of what you share — treat it like any online tool when it comes to privacy.

AI as Your Co-Pilot
When you stop thinking of AI as a replacement for human creativity and start using it as a collaborator, the possibilities open up. Start small. Pick one area where AI could save you time or mental energy this week. Let it handle the heavy lifting so you can focus on what truly moves you toward your vision. Recently I used AI to take my dad's handwritten, scrawled on paper, grocery list and transfer it to my phone into a list, organized by sections in the grocery store. It took me literally 15 seconds, maybe less, to do it and saved me lots of time at the grocery store. Brilliant!

The truth is, AI isn’t here to take your place. It’s here to support you standing in your own place — fully, confidently, and with more freedom to focus on the things that matter most and are uniquely you.

Click here to get your FREE 10 Ways AI Can Save You Time & Energy.

We’re told we can have it all. We hear messages like "you can do anything," "you can be everything," and "you don’t need anyone but yourself." For many women, these affirmations were a rallying cry. A way out. A path forward. A sign that our voices, our dreams, and our drive matter. 

At first, it sounds like liberation. But what happens when those affirmations turn into obligations? What happens when the call to be strong and capable becomes an expectation to do it all, be it all, and never ask for help?

There is when empowerment turns into exhaustion.

Being strong isn't the problem. The problem is when strength becomes a requirement, not a choice. When we wear strength like armor, on some level, we begin to believe that asking for help is weakness. That rest is laziness, that boundaries are selfish and that we are only worthy if we are constantly achieving, caregiving, producing, or fixing.

That version of strength may have served us as a survival tool to get through a challenge, but if we’re not careful, it can quietly morph into self-abandonment in exchange for not only putting others' needs before our own, but enabling them. And the kicker? People start to expect it from us. They count on our superhuman energy. They praise our resilience, our multitasking, our capacity to handle it all. Or they simply take advantage of us. And slowly, it becomes harder and harder for us to put it down.

This path often leads to:

• Burnout and fatigue
• Health issues and stress-related illnesses
• Resentment in our relationships
• A loss of joy and spontaneity
• Disconnection from our true dreams and desires

We start to feel like machines. Or like stage performers, playing the role of the competent woman everyone admires, despite the fact that we’re screaming inside,  "Is this all there is?" Or even worse, "What’s wrong with me for not being able to keep this up?"

The truth is, nothing is wrong with you. What’s actually wrong is the myth that doing it all means you’re successful.

Real empowerment isn’t about becoming invincible. It’s about becoming more human. It is choosing:

• To rest without guilt
• To say no and mean it
• To receive help with grace
• To prioritize joy over obligation
• To let go of perfection and embrace "good enough"

True power comes from authenticity, not performance. It comes from creating a life aligned with your values, not another's or society’s expectations. It comes from softness, surrender, and sacred boundaries. It comes from self love, self care, community, connection, and support. 

So let's create a new vision of success. Let this be your reminder that you don’t have to do it all! You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. You don’t have to earn your worth through your productivity.

What if success looked like:

• Waking up with peace instead of panic
• Feeling energized instead of drained
• Having space for creativity, relationships, and rest
• Living a life that actually feels good on the inside, not just one that looks good on the outside?
• And saying no when others' needs, wants, and desires are not aligned with our own.

Where are you doing too much in the name of being strong? What would it feel like to let something go and embrace what you truly want?

If you follow me, you know that I recently took a much needed road trip back to myself. Instead of filling my days with visits to rehab to listen to my dad's stories about how awful the food is or how much he wants to go home, I decided to trust that he is right where he needs to be to do the physical therapy and occupational therapy that will get him back home AND that I needed a break from caregiving and an opportunity to get reconnected with myself. Two weeks later, I'm heading back to dad, refreshed, rejuvenated, with a clear idea of my next steps and how that fits into his next steps. I feel clear and empowered and in a good place to support both my dad and myself in our next steps. I'll share more in future blog posts, but for now ... 

Let this be your invitation to start living your life on your own new terms, no matter what is happening around you. If you'd like a resource to help you along the way, click here for your free copy of my What Would Your Life Be Like If ... reflection journal. 

I hit send today and submitted a document that carries decades of work and one very big piece of my heart.

My book proposal--What I’ve Learned from Other People’s Kids That Parents Need to Know—is officially submitted to a major publisher. Two days early and stronger than I ever imagined it would be.

I thought I’d feel relief. Or exhaustion. Or the immediate urge to start the next thing, because that's what I do. Instead, I felt still. Quiet. Like something sacred had just passed through me.

Whenever I finish a project, I tend to move right into “what’s next?” mode. I forget to celebrate my accomplishment. But this time, I paused. I found a quiet spot by the water, and sat with the loons as my  witnesses. And I let it land.

I spoke a few words out loud:

“I did it.
For the kids who have taught me.
For the parents who may need guidance.
And for the part of me who has carried this insight inside of me for so long.”

And then I cried a little. The kind of tears that express gratitude and honor something way bigger than I am that continues to inspire my work.

This project has always felt like more than a book. It’s a legacy offering. A bridge between generations. A chance to tell the truth about what young people have always known—and what parents often miss--offered not from a place of blame or lack, but from a place of deep love and compassion.

Earlier this year, I released a mini book. It is a short version of the book designed as a sneak peek. Five things parents (and adults) need to know to enhance connection and communicate with the young people they love and care about. It is a place from which to start the conversation. But it was just the beginning. The full manuscript dives deeper. It weaves together stories from classrooms, clinics, and real-life conversations to help parents see and hear their kids in a whole new way.

And now, it’s out of my hands.
Which is terrifying and liberating at the same time.
And sort of magical.

So today, I’m choosing to let the celebration be enough. Not because the outcome is guaranteed. but because the act of finishing, of showing up, of taking inspired actions, of submitting is the win.

If you’re carrying something big … a story, a truth, a dream that won’t leave you alone … I hope you’ll take this as a nudge.

Start.
Follow divine guidance that shows up as a gentle whisper. Or as goosebumps.
Keep going.
Finish.
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And when you do. remember to celebrate!

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